AdaLovelace
AdaLovelace
Jan 2 2018
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You’re so lucky! I realized after the end of my only major relationship (on and off through all of my 20s) that I worked so hard to hold it together, despite being treated pretty badly, partly because I have literally no model for what you’re supposed to do if you don’t meet the love of your life in your early 20s and Read more

Jan 2 2018
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I just keep having to remind myself to externalize it and remember that someone with shit communication skills was never worth my time, despite the promise of better things. I’ve been around the graveyard enough times that a few of the ghosters have come back around and made it clear that there’s definitely chemistry Read more

Jan 2 2018
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Totally this. What I’ve learned being single for a long time while a “catch,” and talking to a lot of friends about their relationships: 1) A lot of people are terrified of being alone, or deviating from norms, and accept a fair amount of misery in exchange for some creature comfort. 2) Forming lasting relationships Read more

Dec 19 2017
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This is a really good point – I keep worrying that he was just negging her, and JJ Abrams will pull some big reveal in IX, but actually, Rey being a super-powerful force sensitive from nowhere is WAY worse for Kylo. It makes her more like the grandfather he idolizes, the uncle he’ll never live up to, and the father he Read more

Dec 19 2017
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There were things that were bad: Rose’s mary sue intro, too many cutesy creatures, the stable moppets from Canto Bight that were straight out of some ‘80s Michael Jackson film, Holdo wearing a halo (which kinda ruined the surprise for me), Rey’s “training” being so rushed and mostly dedicated to ForceTime with Kylo, Read more

Dec 19 2017
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I would have liked her better if her character weren’t wearing a fucking halo. Ruined the “surprise” a bit.

Dec 19 2017
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I am here for all of this, just not so much the disney-cute kids and critters, and the mary sue moments. Rose redeems herself, but her intro was the worrrrst, worse than the scenes with Rey and Finn, and Rey, Finn, and Han. Can we please not have Luke-on-Tatooine levels of clueless whine every time a new character is Read more

Dec 19 2017
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Both my sister and I have been the person who informed a friend that the urethra and the vagina were separate things, in my case, a friend who was already in her mid-20s and on partner 7 or 8. She’d also never looked at a vulva, even her own.

Nov 9 2017
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It also bears mentioning that predators often groom/isolate one kid as the target of abuse. That makes it more likely that the victim’s claims will be disbelieved, so the abuser can keep feeding their disease. Even Ronan Farrow is on record saying he didn’t believe his sister’s claims initially, and questioned why she Read more

Nov 9 2017
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Except the fact that the cleaner the public profile, the more likely people are to be serious serial predators, e.g. Bill Cosby. Already, by the time of Platoon and Ferris Bueller, Charlie Sheen had the kind of rep that would subsequently keep him away from child actors or children in general. Martin’s other kid, Read more

Nov 9 2017
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Sadly, now waiting for this shoe to drop. The news about Charlie Sheen and Corey Haim still don’t match up to the blind items. Targeting younger boys while still in his teens sure sounds like Charlie himself was a victim of abuse. Fuck this world, seriously.

Oct 25 2017
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Actually, given that this mission involves a casino hive of scum, villainy, and rich assholes, you may be right.

Oct 25 2017
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Lining up with you, my sestren – this is my only real celebrity crush that won’t quit. Trainspotting imprinted me at a formative age and he’s also just so charming, smart, empathetic and seemingly sexually fluid. (Have you seen Long Way Round? Velvet Goldmine?) Totally torn between 1) being disappointed, 2) being like Read more

Oct 25 2017
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I’ve had many conversations with female friends about how much we wish sex ed was actually “sex ed” as in, it actually talked about everyone’s right to pleasure and fun, and that everyone has desire. I feel like a lot of what can feel so murky in these areas is rooted in women’s socialization to not advocate for their Read more

Oct 25 2017
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Thanks for this piece. With all the news surfacing I imagine many of us have been thinking a lot about not just the serial predators, but all the grey areas in our interactions with masculine partners (obvs this is primarily cis-men, but it’s not just them, and not only masc people who are offenders). For me, I have a Read more

May 22 2017
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Not only a potential terrorist attack, but one targeting kids? I’m just gonna leave this here:

Mar 11 2017
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I think the point is that none of woman drag is comfortable if it’s compulsary, on top of all the other inequalities.

Mar 11 2017
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So many conflicting feels about this: the stats are necessary, but it also essentializes binary gender. The stats are about feminine people worldwide but all the screen time is given to a white man. And he’s a white man who is synonymous with the agent of an imperial government who’s killed and slept his way around Read more