No, I don’t see where the hate is coming from at all. Chrissy did not post glamour shots. She and John posted tasteful photos that help those of us who have experienced the same thing feel seen and understood. It is not up to you to judge the right way to handle loss, especially when you’ve never experienced it…

Read your comment on my phone and came to my laptop specifically to respond.

on sister site The Root a more thoughtful article was posted

The stupid shit that people said to me was jaw dropping. No, ma’am, this is not a time for you to tell me about Jesus when you know I’m Jewish.

Even today, a photo taken in hospital after a pregnancy loss might for the parents feel like the only evidence that their child existed and was loved and mourned. A lot of times, there isn’t a grave to visit afterward. It wouldn’t surprise me if Teigen and Legend also took direct postmortem photos of their son that…

I did some research after my miscarriage and found that this happened with previous outbreaks of SARS in China but of course any continuing research after the outbreaks focused on male fertility (do not get me started) so they still don’t know exactly what the connection is, only that there is obviously a connection.

I…

My OB told me this after I had my miscarriage earlier this year. She said they’re seeing lots of “weird” trends with stillbirths of healthy babies and late miscarriages that they can’t prove is COVID, but... based on her 25+ years experience never seeing anything like this before... it’s COVID.

Considering the info came from my midwife I doubt that. It also happened with SARS

The ugly comments under her post came from the usual suspects. The ones that have penises, small ones, and who will never know what type of trauma happens to you upon losing a child either during pregnancy or childbirth. I would like nothing more than to beat those vile pigs senseless and make them eat those words.…

That picture of her alone at the edge of the hospital bed, hunched over, is just so...gutting...

The older I get, the more I realize shutting the fuck up is a skill. I’ve never experienced your loss, but I remember when my dad died, the truly stupid and well-meaning comments were astounding.

I’m a non-profit fundraiser and Dad died the weekend before the event, a gala auction/dinner. I told the committee chair and…

Also, that maybe it’ll stop people from saying all sorts of stupid shit to people when they hear about a pregnancy loss.

I sympathise. I wish that hasn’t happened to you. Back when it happened to me, as a result of spousal violence, there was just no talking about it at all, it was all: shut up and get on with it. Not something I'd wish on anyone else.

The one thing that helped me get over my overwhelming sense of guilt and shame over losing three pregnancies was actually reading an article about celebrities who had lost pregnancies. These were people who had access to the best medical care, a private chef to cook all the “right” foods, personal trainers to help…

Cultural expectations around sharing online are still evolving. The hate on Teigen is from people who are uncomfortable with the direction its moving and not self aware enough to realize the issue lies with them and not the media or the participants.

When it relates to pregnancy or neonatal loss the general social convention seems to be to expect parents to grieve quietly and alone. That’s part of the reason we told basically no one about my first two miscarriages. After my third loss, which was life threatening for me, I told a few people in dips and drabs. One…

Maybe the part of the problem with American culture is that we are constantly asking the victims of bad behavior to change their behavior instead of the perpetrators. I have truly never experienced a culture like this and I am a child of immigrants and lived lots of places.

I’m picturing an ‘A Christmas Carol’ style episode where a Tim Scott analog is visited by ghosts of racism past, present and future.

“There’s racism in America and I do not think we are a racist country.”

There needs to be a TV show entitled Tales From The Sunken Place. It can be done just like Tales From The Crypt with the host being The Coon Keeper. Each week we can detail a new horror story based on one of these ashy black folks that trades in their self respect, work of their ancestors and professional standing all…