Or not.

That's really interesting! I didn't know it. But Lolita got her period more than that time before the end of her relations with Humbert Humbert. And if she hadn't - the fact you stated isn't one he would have known. It interests me because the book is loaded with physiological detail and the omission is thus…

Right? I can't be in a relationship because I also have to brush my teeth twice EACH DAY.

No! You have it all wrong! Republican lady bits prevent rape when the rape is legitimate, and I'm damn sure that by "legitimate" they mean knife-at-the-throat "forcible rape" - the opposite of statutory.

Anyone have a clue about why Lolita never got pregnant? There's no discussion of contraception that I know that relates to the two of them, but this isn't the kind of thing Nabokov would avoid. And her period came well before the end of their relations, so it's not a matter of her youth.

What do you want? Do you really want to just get rid of this "problem" and continue therapy or do you want to sleep with him?

Plain sugar cookies with hard frosting and sprinkles.

A serious crush (like, really liking him) or a silly infatuated feeling? If the former, any signs he feels the same way?

Forget him. Anyone who thinks "studying for the GRE" is a serious activity...

The issue isn't holding someone else responsible for what I do or say — it's holding them responsible for what they do.

Ok, I see re: birth control. Sorry. One thing I don't accept (or want to... I'm confused about this) is that it is up to me.

Did I imply that? I didn't mean to. I think both poles are equally abhorrent.

I laughed too.

It's related, though. As the website says, they're trying to encourage teenagers to "respect" their bodies by covering them, buying into the ancient notion that girls who dress in skimpy clothes don't respect themselves. Their "mission" is to "empower" teenagers to the "highest quality of self-esteem" (whatever the…

*prosecuted. Ugh.

Protection is a great idea to prevent pregnancy/STIs. Being drunk can hinder this. That's not got a goddamn thing to do with rape.

Still not getting it. Who's supposed to take necessary precautions (what is a "necessary" precaution)? Who's risking something (what?) by not being sober enough? Boy or girl?

I agree that we can't decide how we feel. I also don't think we can decide what we believe, but that's neither here nor there. Who are you arguing against, here?

So — and I'm not being facetious here — I can decide? When it's over, I can say that was "the friendly bday punch" or the assault and it all depends on how I feel? I'm not "gaslighting" - I'm as serious and curious about this as any dream interlocutor. I'm still trying to work out my feelings about the punch analogy.

My only love.