So what you're saying is that to you it's perfectly understandable why white women would only want to date white men, it's just natural, and it's also just "natural" for women of color to only want to date white men.

In other words, the "natural" thing for women of all backgrounds to do is to date white men.

Interesting…

I'm happy when granola bars are there. (The fruit, not so much. I eat my fruit at home, where I know it has been washed.)

If Ellenjane TRULY wants us to dismiss all famous men from admiration who were sexist/misogynist then I assume she dismisses the vast majority of famous and admired men from world history prior to the 20th century, and a great many of the ones since the 19th century.

But somehow I doubt that she does.

I'd like to show this to every Facebook simp who whines, "How come we don't have a WHITE History Month?"

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Well remember Elaine, the only black guy you ever dated wasn't actually black.

That would only make sense if these porn stars refuse to sleep with any white men they're not attracted to, which I seriously doubt is the case.

So it seems to me that the white women who won't sleep with black men in a scene are refraining from doing so specifically because he's black (they don't want to upset the…

Maybe you haven't noticed, but people are all the same kind of animal.

If you "find plenty of black men super sexy," how can you say that you're not attracted to black guys?

It sounds more like you've chosen not to let your attraction to black guys lead to anything more than that (for whatever reason or reasons, which you may or may not want to examine), not that you're not attracted to…

I think it's more accurate to say that men will often date women they wouldn't marry... I'm confident that there are many men of all races who are willing to date interracially but take it as a given that they'll "settle down" with someone of their own race.

If he hasn't seen his parents in 10 years or so, I doubt that his concern for what his parents think is at the top of his list.

Colorism in India predates British imperialism... it's awful thing, don't get me wrong, but it can't all be put on the West's shoulders.

Would your family really disown you if your fiancee were black?

What horrible people they are, if that's true.

You're still holding on to hopes of a Don't Trust the B revival? Move on, kid... it's a nice dream, but it's not gonna happen.

(And Happy Endings isn't coming back either.) ; - )

Another way that I could find more time to read the classics is to spend less time on Jezebel.

Oh, and I didn't mean to suggest that sexual relationships are ever platonic... clearly they're not.

Hmm... perhaps you're right about your male friends, but science suggests that you might be mistaken:

http://www.scientificamerican.com/article/men-an…

I'll address more of what you wrote later, but first let me ask you: what do you consider true friendship?

Do you have numerous straight male friends? If so, let's assume that both you and your straight male friends are single... if you were hanging out with any of these friends, and you then casually suggested that…

Exactly... when you're strongly attracted to someone, that's not likely to dissipate if you spend a good amount of time with them, as friends do with each other.

Attraction will frequently grow beyond that to real feelings... why would someone torture themselves by voluntarily spending a great deal of time around…

But effectively what you're saying is that when a man meets a woman he has to either immediately express romantic interest in her or forever place her in a platonic category... how often does real life work like that?

My parents met in college... I've never asked them, but I'm not sure that they started dating as soon…