You mean like “is it though?”

Then they’re not listening, and they need to open their ears. I think only once in my life have I heard a feminist born-woman say that a trans woman isn’t a woman. The born-women here are saying “don’t think that means that you, raised as a man, can start behaving like all raised-as-men people we have ever met, and…

Esther does this. She goes bananas when liberal Jews don’t adequately trash Israel, too. Like being fine with talking about Israel’s terrible corrupt murderous government isn’t enough, you have to disavow any understanding of why Israel exists in the first place.

Super not interested.

Hm. He’s looking at her like he wants to be her, not do her.

We do actually have some communes around here, in the college town where I live. Mixed-gender, and no, the men don’t take care of everything. They’ve survived for decades and there are new people moving in and out. The problems they have tend to come from two areas:

1. A lot of the people who come there are looking for…

Way to erase what they did.

In their time, it was probably more shocking and radical than anything you’ve had the courage to do, and it taught a generation of women that in fact they did have the power to do things on their own. ALL women? No. Some women, at a time when the vast majority of women in this country were…

Except you aren’t at the same level, and I don’t know why you’d think that. It would never have occurred to me that at 25 I’d seen a fraction of what my 75-year-old grandma had seen, even though the world had changed enormously in the meantime. I’m 51 now and I still shut up and listen when the older ladies are…

Okay, so...I actually don’t care what you think of me, but I am 100% certain that there are millennial women where I work who think I’m just the worst and so. mean, also super arrogant about what a “real problem” is, and since they have theories, I’m sure they have theories about that, too. The reality is that I’m…

Ugh, are you really going around tearing down old women’s living arrangements? They did what they could. They’re not telling people they can’t come live there or putting up TERFLAND signs; you’re just kicking whoever wanders by. Please resolve your issues with your mom before you write about older women.

I’m sorry you’re getting so much garbage and non-advice from people here. I’ve been in the same situation, minus the terrible credit (I kept all my stuff separate).

I think the main thing is to be a combination of “get ready and plan now” for both you and your daughter and to be realistic about where she is by the…

Dingdingding! Now you do. Thanks to my constant worry about a very real asshole/deadbeat ex, my kid’s now in a decent position for college funding, and is going to a prestigious university program on a full ride this summer. Worry drives research, email-sending, lawyer-contacting, and financial planning when you’re…

You have no idea what you’re talking about.

I love all this skills-gap garbage that refuses to take account of the fact that unless you can also run a business (hint: college is helpful for this), you’re going to wreck your body while you’re still making $17/hr and feeling excited because you made it all the way to $17/hr. And then disability.

Definitely not helpful at all.

Totally unhelpful. A deadbeat still doesn’t pay, and it’s a rare state that will actually go after him in any useful way. Also, nobody gets alimony anymore, stop posting from 1980.

She’s right, and you know it. The big deal for AOC was winning the primary. The general? Glass of water.

What is it with Jez and the general divorce from reality lately?

No, the center isn’t moving right. It’s actually moving left as the Boomers die. But it’s not fucking falling off the table to the left. If you want to interpret that as “moving right,” fine, whatever.

Seriously, Rebecca, I’m sure it’s fun vanguarding and all in Bklyn, but the commenters below are right. Outside NYC and SF and a few other spots, even young people don’t find AOC all that breath-of-fresh-air. AOC makes endless sense in Queens. She doesn’t make a hell of a lot of sense in Omaha, or even in Minneapolis,…

What would be awesome is if they made it clear that you know fine, growing takes time, but until these guys reach the point of being able to hold up their end in a partnership and a family, self-respecting women are going to stay away. And that “their end” includes all the drudgery of home and family maintenance, also…