Oh ffs Cosmo. "Do everything HE wants to do and pretend you're a thoughtless unfeeling sex robot and then you'll be a cool girlfriend who will never wind up alone!" Reminds me of the old adage, "Men play love to get sex, women play sex to get love." Its such garbage.

@littlepj: My biggest hope is that something in this process will trigger a response so he actually wakes up before its too late...my fellow Jesbians are giving me hope in that capacity :) Thank you for your kind words.

@LaComtesse: There was quite a discussion over at CDAN about how this would have never been a blind item if the person in question was male.

@phalenopsis: It does provide a bit of hope, especially because if my dad gets a "talking to" that will straighten him out, it'll have to be from me. Here's to hoping that my Dad is capable of Snapping Out Of It.

@kanimal: Replace the ravioli with some random bag of Bertolli, and our plans for tonight are one and the same!

I found this and wanted to make sure all you lovely Jesbians enjoy it with me. Edit: nards I can't get it to post. If you can get the image to come up, by all means, please reply! lol

@BrilliantCorners: I think you expressed it well: its heart wrenching to support one over the other when you know it will crush the latter. Thank you for the kind words.

@Superrrdupa: Yup, you don't have to explain a thing, I think many women here understand exactly why an abused woman doesn't just "snap out of it and leave". Thanks for the well wishes, this community is awesome.

@HarmonyLane: Maybe he wants to talk about it...or maybe he uses it as an excuse. Either way, you shouldn't have to go without just 'cause he's an emotional infant.

@phalenopsis: I'm genuinely hoping that something this could rattle my Dad out of his complacency. But he just had a heart attack and a triple bypass...we all thought the experience would change him...but the changes lasted a mere few weeks. Once he felt better, things soldered on. If that won't change him maybe…

@nothanks: In a way, I almost welcome the crutch thing. My mom and sisters and I have been divided for years by his manipulative behavior and his efforts to turn us against one another, and we're only now learning to bond and love one another. I want to be here for her. I know I need to not be all she has, but this…

@la.donna.pietra: No, I think the friends and lifestyle they've had within the church is such that my Mom has no one (her family is far away and they're awful people anyway). My Dad is a prominent pastor, so...you can see where the friends' loyalties are going to be.

@HarmonyLane: I've had a lot of FOB situations, and usually that behavior stems from the other party's unwillingness to believe that you can, like, have sex with them and not want to have their babies and get married immediately. The other person usually is so convinced that they're God's Gift that they have to try…

@suck_it_monkeys: I too like to clean and listen to bouncy music while I can, usually my work out music so I can't help but feel motivated. Sometimes I find a great DVD or DVD TV show set that I haven't watched, and blast that while I clean. Other times I just need to get out so I take a short walk to the coffee shop…

@ZombieApocalypse: That sounds excellent (replace whiskey with vodka and its my kind of night). Too bad its on hold til the new ep of Big Love is on tomorrow night!

I'm having a bummer of a day.

In the end there will only be frosting.

Makes me jealous. I know my betrothed won't allow a Fallout 3 wedding. We didn't meet on there, but still. I want to walk down the aisle to "I Don't Want To Set The World On Fire". "I've lost all ambition of worldly acclaim, I just want to be the one you love." is one of the most romantic things I've ever heard.

@JennaW: Well, the Scientologists do think you come back, which is why you sign "1 billion years" contracts.

@sybann: Very. These aren't people who want human interaction and the back-and-forth give and take that relationships bring...they just want a really fancy fleshlight.