Yep, so glad I never married or had kids with him. He’s since gone on to father a child, and from what I gather that’s the only fathering he’s done.

Congrats! I finally reached the 800s too. I never would have guessed 12 years ago that I’d be able to repair the damage, but it happened bit by bit.

I restarted at 32 trying to find apartments that didn’t require a cosigner - which I didn’t even need for my 1st apartment at 18. It was tough, not gonna lie. I learned very quickly how to live with only what I needed, wants had to come later.

My ex called his law school loans: “the home I’ll never own”

Oh I know that story! I left with 13k in debt, all in my name because I was dumb and allowed my good credit to be used to fund our lives. I tried like hell to keep us on a budget but he outspent on his side by almost $200 a month. It was hell. Oddly enough, once I left and money wasn’t hemorrhaging left and right, it…

I’m a Gen-Xer, but my 10 year relationship that sucked up my 20s to early 30s was plagued by monetary issues. It played a huge part in our breaking up, and was a valuable lesson learned.

As a Gen-Xer I would make the same choice. I’ve been in enough relationships to know I’d be far happier with the extra income and the experiences/security it can provide than the hard slog that even the best LTR involves...

Beat me to it, really is the perfect analogy.

So, many, commas,.

Me too!

Oh my lord, I read that quote as: “Queen “was described in September by Vogue as having a ‘distinct BDSM aesthetic’ and was SO confused!

Fun house mirror reflective.....

As did I! Good way to get me to click through when I generally don’t.

Chiming in to highly recommend watching it. It’s more a psychological suspense Twilight Zone/Stepford Wives thriller than a ghost/monster horror flick. If possible see it with the alternate ending, too. It’s just a fantastic movie.

That is terribly sad. And I’m somewhat of an expert in the self loathing dept.

I agree, it’s breathing more life into the very issue being argued over. If we’re talking about giving women space to air our stories, we should be giving that space to more than one issue. Unfortunately it’s popped up on every thread I’ve visited today, usually more than once.

It’s rather disheartening when the vast majority of comments are unrelated to the article. I understand it’s a conversation that obviously needs to happen, but it’s also derailing pertinent exchanges and it definitely doesn’t make a long time commenter, now long time gray like myself prone to join the conversation. I…

I’ve gotten used to the grayness, I honestly can’t contribute the way I used to. By the time I do have the freedom to comment, I find someone has already made the same observation and there’s no need for me to add in my “ditto” comment (unless it’s a SNS thread where someone’s in need of internet hugs).

You’re thinking of old school Jesus. We’re talking about American Jesus, very different Jesus.

I have never been ice skating - partially because I share this fear. When i was a kid someone rolled over my hand with roller skates and that hurt like hell. I can’t imagine an actual blade.