They didn't even question my presence. I picked a butch name and everyone just assumed I was one of them. I didn't even have to say anything.

Seriously, thank you for doing the emotionally demanding work that I'm sure this was. This is all terrifying, but important to know about.

Kinda-update: I went to check the room again this morning, and it's now password-protected.

Guys who act like "being nice should earn me sex" are clearly ignorant or insensitive of how hurtful they're being to women with that attitude. But girls who act like "let's just be friends" should be just as good as a chance to date a girl you enjoy spending time with and find attractive, are just as ignorant of how…

"because I was a nice, respectful guy, I was immediately taken out of consideration as a dating prospect by every single one of those girls."

This right here:

I had been in the friendzone myself, and I am a woman. Wearing tight shirts, make up, talking to guys, only hanging with guys...but I was not a 10, so I got to hear that I am "one of the guys". Hell, they even made fun of each other by calling them that I have a crush on them, if they wanted to put each other down.
How…

You put your shit out on a public forum and you didn't get tea and sympathy. Too bad, dude.

"All I've ever wanted was a real, meaningful romantic relationship (whether you choose to believe it or not), but because I was a nice, respectful guy, I was immediately taken out of consideration as a dating prospect by every single one of those girls. I believe I have a lot to offer as a boyfriend, I have a lot…

I got news for you, dude. They are not refusing to date you because you're "too nice."

I don't buy this, mainly because I have never dated assholes or "bad boys" and neither have the vast majority of my friends. I don't know what, in particular, you are doing wrong, but it isn't being a nice, decent human being. In my experience, Nice Guys like you can fall into any number of categories, from…

Do you want to know why none of the women you have fancied have ever given you a chance? Because you are pathetic and don't deserve one. You think you're nice, but in reality, you're just as big of an asshole as the "neanderthals" your lady friends allegedly prefer. You want to know why? Because you befriend women on…

Thisss. A lot of guys won't take "no" for an answer. They think you're just playing hard to get, or that if they keep pushing we'll eventually find their persistence sexy and say yes.

Wow. Wow. As a man you can't see a woman's viewpoint on how society treats her and you're all "I CAN WRAP MY HEAD AROUND THIS!" I feel dumber from having read your long statement that could be summed up as "I, a man, don't understand a woman's viewpoint for I am a man and therefore, society must not be like that, even…

So you do not believe men ever come across as entitled, yet you write a comment that is seventeen paragraphs long about how women are wrong to share their experiences in a forum aimed at women, because you personally have not encountered the same experiences?

Maybe most men do follow the rules, but on average 85% of the violence worldwide is perpetuated by men, with no culture dropping below 80% (and yes, a lot of that is against other men), so naturally women and children are more afraid of men as a group than they are of women. I would assume that most *men* are more…

It's not my definition of ally that's narrow, it's how you view your duty as one that is, because you clearly think you can turn it on and off for the things you believe are real regardless of what the person you claim to be supporting is telling you. Can you see now why any woman who may have experienced this didn't…

Some man does something horrible to some woman. There's an article, but nobody gets a direct statement from either party. I come to a site like this one, and there are hundreds of people making claims about the case. It sounds like he's guilty, but I'm not 100%. There are all sorts of things about how "this is why…

Given that you're disregarding anything unless you've personally experienced it, as one man to another (because clearly you'd never take the word of a woman) I'd say no, you are most certainly not "an ally."

So you would rather go with your own experience than listen to people who have ACTUALLY experienced the things we discuss?