No problem! Thank you for being so gracious about your privilege. While things like male and white privilege are being more commonly discussed and thought about, able bodied privilege isn't and not even on the radar of even most thoughtful, progressive people.

And it's not even just a case of feeling "less pretty" or…

Yes, the lack of hygienic conditions, lack of infrastructure and lack of supplies/capital are the realities of this disease. But to think that those are somehow independent of racist attitudes and policy is absurd. From hundreds of years of colonialism raping and pillaging that was justified based on racist attitudes…

Half Kanaka Maoli hapa haeole here. All of this.

Another conventionally attractive girl who is a wheelchair user, and YES to

Another wheelchair user. What you said is one of the reasons I love working with kids, they see me not my chair. Well they see the chair and want to play with it, but it's a separate entity from me in their minds. I see a lot of parents trying to hush their kids when they ask why that lady is sitting down or why is…

THIS

I figured this would come up. I am a person with a visible disability, a SCI (spinal cord injury) to be exact, who was in a wheelchair for a long time and told by doctors I'd never walk again. I've gotten back on my feet but still have periods where I have to use crutches or my chair. I agree generally with your…

I was paralyzed from the waist down in 2011 after I had an infection in my spinal cord. never thought I'd walk again (they gave me a 30% chance of ever even standing up with support again and said that was a generous estimate) and was confined to a wheelchair. While I did start walking again against all odds, the…

My last two jobs had a free family or staff meal. It usually was put out around 3 or 4, so a late lunch for daytime BOH staff (plus me, I was the only FOH in from 8 am to 1 pm at one place) and just before the dinner shift began. It always sucked. Unless it was chicken finger day. It was just a bunch of random…

It really depends on the place. Where I work, lunch servers pool tips. It's a double edged sword, when there's a small group of servers and bartenders who work really well as a team it's great. We all help each other and the quality of service is high. When you get a big crew there's less teamwork and always slackers…

#NotAllHosts I've been working in restaurants since I was 16, over a decade, and have served, bartended, hosted, expoed and even GMed. Everywhere from small family joints to busy suburban chains (I will kill someone before I sing the Red Robin birthday song again) to fine dining places that run the gauntlet from ski…

#NotAllHosts I've been working in restaurants since I was 16, over a decade, and have served, bartended, hosted, expoed and even GMed. Everywhere from small family joints to busy suburban chains (I will kill someone before I sing the Red Robin birthday song again) to fine dining places that run the gauntlet from ski…