There are ways to work your way up to it if this is something you actually want to try. It’s pretty rare that anyone’s butt is ok with just starting off with a phallus.

I am a dude and I can recall two instances of being unaware of where my penis was going in my early twenties. Both times my girlfriends were very aware of it but said nothing. One was just assuming I was trying something new and she just rolled with it despite finding it terribly discomforting until I asked if…