No doubt this dynamic is in play. I was like this with one girlfriend in my early 20s where I was like “I can never possibly rise to this standard where housework seems like an enjoyable hobby, so why bother”. But with my wife, while she likes chores about as much as I do which isn’t very much, she loves explaining…

I think there is some sort of gap where some demographic of men don’t see that effort is the baseline of what you can give. Or that not being good at something is a poor excuse to avoid doing something. And it’s like a rebuttal to life experience or something, like

“Still, based on the mommy groups I am in, there is some deep, deep control issues regarding women and their households. Just b/c he doesn’t do it when or how you want him to, doesn’t mean he’s not doing anything.”

Darn, I guess I’ll have to tell my wife that someone on Kinja found me out and in fact I don’t care about her back problems. And her 10 years of having sex with me were all a provoked by the long ruse I planned. Ya got me! This millstone of shame is too much - goodbye cruel world!

I mean there’s also a gulf between platonic love, romantic love, parental/guardian love. Like if people don’t validate you in the way you want to be that might rankle you some regardless of what exactly you’re looking for and not getting.

Haha, omg, same. I see bigger than a C cup and instantly my emotion isn’t one of arousal, it’s “oh lord, I hope her back is okay. Those boobs seem like no joke to manage”.

“Sorry I’m a man” should be in like every book at some point. Almost like using a classic sound effect as homage to film history. 

I’m on the other side of the coin - my wife likes to be awoken with arousal, one of her big turn ons. Meanwhile I’m over here fretting about consent and being creepy and then in fact being creepy as i deliberate for 10 minutes at the foot of the bed if today is the ‘right’ day to wake her up with kisses and touches…

The only way I can wrap my head around it in a generous way is it’s an empathetic gesture to establish we all have flaws and in spite of those we like to bang. That is as generous as I’ll get today though cause literally every other thing I could think of was terrible and bad and awful.

How most men should write about sex:

It’s a tongue in cheek joke about how fans of soccer in general (but especially Portugal and Portuguese speaking countries) view the game itself as “The Beautiful Game”.

Bud Light wants you to root for a low brow tyrant. 

False. Setting a price that strives to maximize revenue is primarily influential. In a market with many competing products, price is also verily influenced by the prices of those competing products and although some sort of soft collusion exists around the $60 price point, with the advent of direct distribution…

90s games were not free of bugs, man. They were filled with hilarious non game breaking bugs that we savor to this day.

Hmmm, it’s quite like an RPG where you have to either align with an openly evil dude who is really evil or a milquetoast who doesn’t ever quite accomplish what they hope to and sometimes get a little overzealous. And you just drop the controller and walk out of the room with a simple Nope. Too bad it’s a persistent…

How many games with loot boxes have been decommissioned by their creators? Super curious as to how that affects things.

Not a parent, just a sucker uncle who didn’t see his nephew nick his phone for 5 minutes.

https://kotaku.com/1830717757 Gimme your thoughts!

Do you have a supporting rationale document from the GBGC? Again, if you only evaluate things based on similarity and don’t factor in dissimilarity then you’ll permanently be living on a slippery slope.

Only if you take a cursory look at how adjacent things are similar and ignore how they are different: