A large wedding is a choice. You do not get to complain about your choices. Sorry. Grow up and make better choices.

Your husband is not Persian. He is Iranian. Let it go, and suggest he do the same.

As loller said, you don’t get to complain about the conditions you have personally designed. Being an adult means not complaining about the very circumstances that you have manufactured with your own hands (and credit cards). The OP appears to be nothing more than foolish, rather dim, and extraordinarily…

I have created a burner for the first time in my adult life to let you know that I love THE SHIT out of your responses.