Christ people are reactive. I never thought that saying that people (women, men, whoever) should be comfortable and confident speaking up about their needs would lead to accusations of being a rape apologist. Silly me. 1 in 6 is not the majority. My original comment was to a person discussing/asking if whether or not…

I signed up for exactly one WomCam event and left immediately. The safe space facebook page is famous for ban-hammering basically everyone that disagrees with the select group of admins, accusing them of breaching the safe space. As a staunch feminist, bi-sexual lady who would like to be more involved in these kinds…

The problem is the surreal echo chamber of academia, where activists have time to tease apart language like bellybutton lint. I am the loyal grad of a women’s college and an avowed leftie, but this bullshit will drive you mad.

That is actually incorrect and potentially dangerous information. Given new consent laws, you should check your state lawmaker to ensure you know what you need to do in order to not sexually assault someone.

It’s not that ridic:

EXACTLY. Like oh my god.

Radfems in general have “literal, rigid, unrealistic rules of human interaction” (very well put!) which makes me skeptical about this whole thing after reading a statement that... vague and slightly nonsensical. Still no idea what the hell happened.

Is she? That would change my perspective on this story a bit.

Nope. It does make rape more likely to occur though.

I just don’t see how it’s useful to double-down on shaming someone who fucked up, but then took the appropriate actions after the fact. I feel like if the way to overcome rape culture is to “have an honest discussion about rape,” this kind of extreme vindictiveness/persnicketiness is ultimately self-defeating. I mean,…

Is that the new standard. “Not paying attention to body language” = rape?

I feel like there’s a lot of useful information that we (anybody) would need to know about what happened (in the first encounter) to make an informed opinion. Without that information this whole thing is a just a huge (consensual) circle-jerk. What we are left with (in absence of actual information) is conjecture and…

You’re to keep what is known as a consent log, ideally. You first ask for consent verbally, then you write it out in the log. It’s best if you video the agreement before performing any act that could be considered, in any way, sexual. That includes kissing, touching most all parts of the body below and above the…

That confuses me too. I cant imagine i the heat of the moment being like “can i finger you?” Or “im done fingering you, would you like to have sex now?” But i do try to verbalize my intention by asking things like “do you want me to wear a condom?” But asking for consent for foreplay seems odd, it happens in small…

Yeah I don't get it either. She admitted it herself and resigned from every position she held. I'm not entirely sure what more she could have done. Acknowledging her mistakes and endeavoring to learn from them is pretty much all anyone who has done anything wrong can ever do. She can't change the past, only the…

Clover called Matt Damon “whitey,” and I replied with the above. That’s all it took.

I pissed off Clover Hope with an unacceptable opinion :)

Yeah, that doesn't make any sense. This isn't the movie industry.

Yeah, I didn’t really buy that line, either.

Who cares if they blew the game, they’re part time employees refereeing a recreational activity involving amateurs.