my niece, who is dark, was constantly told she couldn’t be placed in ads because it would be too hard to cast a “family”.

oh my god, it kills me to hear shit like this. life is so fucking short, and your youth is a really small portion of it. think about it. you’ve got 20 good years of youth- roughly 20-40. then the rest of your life is spent basically middle aged and old. there is no dumb age. it’s all good. i’m in my 40s, and i’m just…

hell yes.

dude you are definitely gen-x, no doubt.

yup -the music of my teens and twenties can be distilled into a few xm radio stations - classic alternative of 80s -33, 90's alternative- 34, early hiphop - backspin/43, r&b and hiphop of the 90s and aughts- fly47, and 80s r&b-50

I actually have a formal long skirt (a-line, not ballgown), that I worn with a matching cashmere sequin tank that I wore to black tie events from 2001-2003. I just can’t seem to part with it.

all you youngsters are so cute!

it sucks that you have to watch with bullshit. i refuse to watch any of this misogynistic garbage.

Yep. That is exactly right. It’s what I hate about the black bourgeois. People think that they’re old money because they’ve been renting the same house in Oak Bluffs since 1999. GTFOH. I have all the bona fides and then some, but my grandparents were poor tenant farmers and sharecroppers who worked unimaginably hard…

he is.

me too. my head is gi-normous. and i’d really need to lose some lbs and that will just make my head look even bigger. i can only wear baseball caps opened as much as possible.

I think Princess Diana and others of her ilk where the only ones rocking hats in the 80s. I can’t remember any regular chicks walking around in hats at that time. Unless it was for church, and they were really old.

I remember that. I never bothered with blush. Still don’t unless I’m going to black tie event, which is once every 5 years or so.

barf. i live in a colder place, so they would be wearing skinny jeans and moncler jackets. no spray tans either. i live in the land tiny pale brunettes.

girl, i am too. they wouldn’t even think about casting my slightly non-conforming ass.

i’m convinced that the programming execs at bravo hate women, especially middle aged women, so i don’t watch any of this misogynistic garbage.

My deal breaker was “I can’t find anything wrong with you...”

a great piece. it stinks to feel invisible, i know from personal experience.

i still would.

there are comtemporary books with Jewish protagonists, but I can honestly only think of dudes, and not girls. I personally was tired of my book club picking books where the protagonist is a white ethnic male outsider in love with the perfect, often unattainable shiksa princess (The Interestings, The Marriage Plot,…