Thanks! I really liked that.

I read it this morning and I liked it, I think when I boil it down I don’t know why I’m so instant on breastfeeding. Clearly it’s something that was drilled into me at some point along the way and a lot during my pregnancy and birth classes. I liked how supportive the Lactation consultants were in the hospital and…

Thanks for your thoughts. We talked and came up with a game plan to split weekend mornings. Hopefully we will stick to it. I explained I don’t like having to direct him all the time and ask for help , I want him to just step up- well let’s just say he doesn’t get it. He fundamentally can’t understand why I don’t like…

We talked this morning and came up with a game plan to split weekend morning duties. Somebody else sent me an article that helped last night and we are going to at least try this for the immediate future. I get one day he gets the other and until 1pm from when the baby wakes up you have full responsibility. The other…

Yes it absolutely makes sense. I think developing a weekend game plan that’s consistent and we both know what is expected of each other should help.

Isn’t it wild how most men can sleep through a crying baby?! Some mornings my husband will be like “the baby slept well last night”.... uhh no you slept well and didn’t notice anything!

It’s so good to hear you found your groove. I hope we get to that place too, sooner rather than later. I’m glad to know I’m not alone in feeling this way. My husband is really good at getting our son down for naps. He’s definitely going through a sleep regression mainly in regards to napping. It’s impossible to get…

I just read another article somebody sent me that included what you described. Each person gets a half day off on the weekend kid free. I really think this is what we need to do. A couple of times I’ve gotten frustrated to the post of leaving the house for a bit to go to the mall and just let dad deal with baby. It’s…

Thanks for the article I want to give it a good read in the morning with some coffee. I hate that I know my baby would be fine with all bottles of formula/pumped/or both that I still have this mindset drilled into me that breast is best. I need to remember that every time I have breastfed him so far is a success and I…

Yes just this past week my son decided he doesn’t want to nap anymore. He also just put me through a nursing strike a few weeks back. He was really fussy every time he would be hungry and I think my supply was dropping due to stress. We hobbled through and he’s nursing better now so I don’t want to give up! It does…

Yeah we transitioned baby to his own crib and room a lot earlier than I thought we would. Around 2 months old. He was such a loud sleeper that I think we were disturbing his sleep as much as his ours. He started sleeping longer stretches in his own room but I will say it is a drag to get out of bed and take care of…

Yeah to say my husband is stubborn would be an understatement. He can be so sweet sometimes and just such a pain in the ass too. I know I’m not a peach all the time either but I really wanted him to be my biggest cheerleader with breastfeeding. But when I get frustrated like today he is so quick to suggest bottles or…

Thanks I’m going to look into that. That article summarized some stuff that I think could work for us. I really like the weekend “half day” off idea. Honestly that could really be a solution for a lot of our problems. Thank you!

Yes and generally he is pretty good about doing things when I specifically ask. But it also frustrates me that I have to be the director! I know most people, especially men, aren’t the best mind readers but i feel like when I give him over to him I have to remind him: can you change him? Did he get his next dose of…

Yeah I really think I’m closing in in my “fuck it” moment too. Very seriously considering switching to bottles after today. I just know i can’t go back if I change my mind. I guess I’m really hard on myself and want to push myself to BF for as long as possible but I shouldnt do it to the detriment of my marriage.…

Thanks I appreciate it! It’s good to know it really does get easier soon. Everyone, especially my mom, said the first year after having your first baby is really hard on a marriage. And for the most part things have been fine, but this situation has really been a struggle for me. I know i got to tough it out, and am…

Thanks for sharing. As much as i look forward to him getting older and things hopefully getting easier to share, I get sad/mad at myself for wanting this infancy stage to pass quicker. Everyone says it goes so fast and to soak it up while you can, but I hate that I feel this stress and resentment and I feel like it’s…

Is it really wrong that since I insist on breastfeeding and I get up and take care of our 4mo every night myself, I want a little fucking help on the weekends from my husband? I’ve had a couple of conversations about how I feel like I do the heavy lifting all night every night (we both work full time) that I want him…

I spend too much money shopping online so I might not be the best person to take advice from but if you have your card info saved on any website it makes it way too easy to just click and buy. I know if I deleted all my saved cards on Target and others sites I wouldnt buy 90% of the crap I do. I’m lazy enough where…

I did! I was so used to waking at 3, 5 and 7am. I was practically wide awake at 5 watching him sleep which is his normal “wake up” time. I had to get up and pump anyways cause it was starting to get painful waiting for the kid to wake. You sound like you are so lucky to have a sleeper. Maybe I have one on my hands too…