thank you! I should do the same. I am happy to have spoken with you.

Yeah, and I think that “mansplain” gets overused too. I feel like it was reasonable for me to question this word choice. And it seems that you feel it is reasonable for you and your redneck neighbor to question your mother’s accusation of racism. But it sounds like he did something wrong.

why are you selling?

Also, in the experiment. Will typical beauty standards arise again? Will girls still prefer tall boys? Will boys be attracted to girls with larger breasts? I kind of think so, but it won’t be as rigid, at least of course for the first generation. Another important consideration are the teachers or counselors. Are they…

Yeah, maybe you’re right. I just saw on facebook a female friend posted a news article called “Hillary Clinton’s ads contained almost no policy issues.” She wrote some comments. A male friend posts a reasonable rebuttal. Some unknown women immediately accuses him of mainsplaining.

In damn near every culture, doesn’t it work out that men are the romantic initiators and women are more passive? Haven’t women’s looks been emphasized and men’s achievements and personality been emphasized?

Hey, it is great that you are heading in the right direction. Congratulations. You deserve love, life, and friends.

I think Mother Nature wrote some guidelines on the chalkboard, and human beings chiseled them into stone. The science experiment we all dream of is to have 500 baby boys and 500 baby girls and to raise them without media or gendered influence and see what happens. We would raise them in a group setting, maybe with…

Yeah, that’s why Meryl Streep is such an outstanding actress. Italian (Bridges of Madison County), Polish (Sophie’s Choice), British (The Iron Lady). Probably so many others.

Ah, that could be a big part of it. I also have some uneducated speculation. Cis gendered men have more hangups with trans women because dating a trans woman is just more of a leap. Taking her home to meet his parents is a big leap. A lesbian dating a trans woman has already made a leap. Her parents and friends are…

Yeah, some accents are certainly harder than others. When did Elba play a southern character? I don’t watch the tv show Fargo, but I just checked the cast and an English actor, Martin Freeman, is on the show. I wonder if his character has an Upper Midwest accent, and how he handles it.

Men have more anxiety over being cool and confident than women. Women have more anxiety over being good looking than men. These things are evening out somewhat, but they will never change.

I think that it is fair to say that people care a lot more about female body image than male body image. And when I wrote, “nobody cares,” I was referring more to male personality anxiety. And yeah, somebody cares. At least one person cares about that, so it is false for me to write “nobody cares.” But by and large…

There is no “one way to score a date.” That is why I called being unfunny and uncharming a “liability” for men, not a “dealbreaker.” Yes, generally unfunny people can at times be funny. Are they going to be funny at the exact moment they are trying to make a good impression on someone? I am funny. Most people who know…

If a man is unfunny or charmless, that really is a big liability in the dating world. A lot of women can not shave their legs and still date pretty successfully. Sure, most men would prefer she shave her legs. Some will grumble and complain, while others will just grumble internally. And yes, some men will ultimately…

Some people’s stories on “the trauma of searching for love” will be received with empathy, and others will not. This author knew that her story will be received with empathy, especially on this website, clearly not on other websites. A constantly rejected person’s story on “the trauma of searching for love” will not…

Yes. However, a lot of gay and trans people do not tell their families they are gay and trans out of fear of rejection or ridicule. Are they weak? Well, it’s hard to call their silence an act of strength, but their reasons can be legitimate. Why do we live in a world where their silence makes sense as a defensive act?…

I was wondering about that. How old was she and how old was he? Sorry to put a damper on this.

Interesting. Why do you think there is so much animosity from certain lesbians to trans women?

A lot of women have negative body image, and people care. A lot of men have negative body image, as well as negative personality image, and people don’t care. A lot of men have anxiety over being cool, confident, and charismatic enough to appeal to women.