I struggle with this regularly, but from a different angle. I am the adoptive mother to a child whose first mother did not want to be her day-to-day parent. Our absolutely delightful, amazing daughter is being raised by people who wanted to be parents more than anything. And she is being loved by parents who did not…

Is this legal? It seems like there might be laws preventing denying a ride based on gender.

Oh, I was all smiles until I got here:

Gah! I've done that! It hurt like a mofo and took months of rehab. It's gonna hurt so much worse in a few hours.

Good luck to your gender neutral efforts! I've found that over the first year, about 80% of our daughter's clothing is gifted to us by aunties, grandmothers, friends, etc. and it turns out they LURVE dresses and bows and pink. (I'm too cheap and practical to buy her more clothes than she needs, because she outgrows…

I'm guessing she's ditched the smart phones for security, but she always was partial to a flip. You can see a retrospective here:

Look, I'm a middle class white lady totally sober person/rule follower. I don't ever intentionally break laws, even if I think they're stupid. And I expect my kid to do the same one day. Because I benefit from white middle class lady privilege. And even it's been my privilege to never be hassled by the cops, it turns…

I'm normally a "fuck the police" kinda gal and I think the criminal "justice" system is a useless, punitive waste of human life.

Damnit. I did the same with my Spotify playlists. And I absolutely love the weird Gnarls Barkley stuff and DAMN IT STOP BEING AN ASSHOLE, CEE-LO.

I haven't tried a handheld laser hair remover, but when I had laser treatments at a dermatologist's office for my ladystache, it felt like each individual pore in my face had a tiny hand grenade implanted in it. Having that experience around my butthole... No.

I'm picturing this mom as Ana Gasteyer's music teacher character bopping along happily to Will Ferrell's sexy jams as she makes/orders this cookie. I hope I am as unsexy and unhip and earnestly charming in my sex positivity for my own daughter as this mom was for her son and his rubbing partner. I will not, however,…

Me either! I've read all the books and I don't think Claire or Jamie are "good" people. They aren't terrible, and they are generally sympathetic, but they are both selfish and violent. I don't think I would like Claire as a person, though I admire much about her resourcefulness and intelligence. It doesn't make me…

I'm with you. I had clotting issues and am unable to take any hormonal birth control, and basically condoms and the copper IUD are the only thing left. But since it's fucking dangerous for me to get pregnant anyway (see clotting risk + autoimmune marker that ups heart risk for baby + the world's most incompetent…

Awesome! Thanks for the primer!

Ugh. My father's mother in my case. Why were we so dumb? Dick-jokes, I'm sending you a lying high-five across the intertubes. Let's be smarter.

I smoked cigarettes for the decade of my 20s and lied about it to my parents. I haven't smoked in 11 years, but I would never, ever tell them. My husband (who I met in my early 30s) knows, but I've told him I'll declare him a liar if he ever rats me out. I would rather my parents (such straight-laced folks) know the…

Always good for allies (in the political fight for civil rights sense) to be reminded to watch it with their "affirmations." Microagressions are exhausting. BTW, you sound like my kind of person. I'm going to a work conference in San Francisco in a few weeks and my best friend and I (who will be reunited after many…