“If he can twist ‘the letter of the law’ into something it’s not, that’s reprehensible, but would require him to be a legal genius”

Seriously. It’s inspiring. I’ve been thinking about it for minutes, which in this age is a miracle.

“But when the black critics came out with savage think pieces about ‘Django,’ I couldn’t have cared less”

I know that’s something we all experience, and that’s precisely the issue. What I’m saying is that it at its root is deeply problematic. I think we should be overcoming the notions that make us feel this way in the first place- hypersexualization of young women and de-sexualization of ‘older’ women. Feeling badly…

What did happen that everyone is referring to? I don’t visit the net often and am a little lost.

Seriously, I think we do need to call out this kind of sentiment. I’m not unsympathetic because he genuinely feels badly, but the fact that he craves attention from primarily YOUNG WOMEN and that’s the source of his woes- this is indicative of a significant social problem.

And Piper’s from OITNB.

I’ve had to move A LOT in the past three or four years; moving homes altogether, moving rooms, getting new study spaces, ‘part time’ homes, blah blah. I like to collect the occasional junk that’s meaningful to me, but I’m not an extreme hoarder.

The excess of this makes it kinda suspect to me.. I wouldn’t be surprised if those who are really culpable are getting away, and the lower level grunt workers in the scheme could be getting undue punishment. With how corrupt the system is, I just can’t believe that justice is actually being carried out. And of course…

Thank you. I really appreciate your perspective. I think many are being way too simple-minded about this, and there is a lot of nuance. I think this idea that sexuality is a constant throughout one's life is almost as oppressive as homophobia and bigotry. Things can and DO change, morph, and develop over time and in…

Of course. It's not okay to pursue a relationship concealing something you know your partner would not be okay with. And bviously you shouldn't keep information that could negatively affect your partner. The culture of "your romantic interest/spouse has a right to know everything about you" is just problematic to me…

Of course if you are dating someone who is super conservative or something, that might apply. I would think if you know someone well enough to marry them, you probably could use your best judgment about these kinds of things (hopefully). I just don't agree with this idea that your partner has the right to know…

It doesn't matter whether it may come out or not. To me, that's not a compelling enough reason to feel obligated to tell someone something RIGHT NOW, especially if you are not comfortable or ready. If it does come out later and the bride is super upset, I think that's because of this culture of over-sharing and serial…

You know, I'm well aware of this supposed phenomenon, but I have serious doubts about its validity. Based on lifelong observations and experiences, I don't know of any woman who seems to be affected by this. Whether their fathers are terrible, wonderful, or just kinda neutral. It seems to me that women's tastes in men…

Yeah, I don't understand this notion that we have to tell our partners EVERYTHING and secrets are evil. That person doesn't own your life; you're entitled to share with them as much as you want, as long as you are not being deceitful to someone's detriment.

Abuse is difficult to prove for so many complicated reasons, lack of reporting and stigma being significant ones. To my knowledge, there were reports of domestic disturbances at their home. I don’t doubt she has psychological issues to deal with.

Does the fact that people reading your comments are baffled, and the person you responded to doesn’t even know what you are talking about tell you anything? Your points are not well taken because they are in response to something that you seem to completely misinterpret. Yet, you are blaming others for not…

It’s all bizarre and tragic.. Her father was an absolutely bonkers right wing politician who had an affair with a woman who was just deranged. Her husband abused her and by all accounts they had a super unhealthy marriage. I know she’s a predator and what she did is despicable, but she is very troubled.

Wtf? I didn’t see anybody saying anything remotely like that, so this sounds like projection and assumptions, which really speaks more to your mindset than anything else.

Oh my Dog. I think we may have been in the same book club.