If someone volunteers themselves to answer questions, then ask questions and if they don't, ask if it's ok if you ask questions.

I don't think that anyone is saying that in this case asking questions was a bad thing, but it was poorly done and rude. I think that as a general principal, checking to see if it's ok if…

"2/2 Employee says, you said your partner was female? I disclose trans status and she says, "Oh thats why they took him there". WTF"

So, employee was informed of pronouns and used the incorrect one.

Yes, but.

Nope. It is not the job of people who are trans to explain that to people who aren't. As an allie, it's my job to answer the questions and tell people when they are out of line.
Asking about someone's genitals, unless they have given you explicit permission to do so, is rude. I would never just ask some dude how…

Genitalia is *not* how gender is defined, it is how SEX is defined. Those are two different things. People can be born with either penis, vagina, or BOTH. Gender is confusing.
Often people use chromosomes to define gender. That is fine, but there is waaay more than three chromosomes that define gender (I don't…

He also told me that he noticed that his thinking went from very circular reasoning like branching out and thinking about allll the possibilities, mapping them alll out, etc. etc. before coming to a conclusion — to very linear just point A to point B without thinking about other possibilities. Have you noticed a…

I would love to hear more about yours too!
We're pretty boring, quiet folks — live in a city the midwest with our 11 year old, dog, cat.
Umm... I was trying to figure out on the commenting system here, but couldn't — is there a PM feature? Do you know?

My husband, who is trans ftm, had the reverse experience. He used to hold on to things for hours and days, and once he started hormones, his temper will flare up quickly and then die down. I want to have all kinds of processing conversations and draw it out, and I can be mad at things for a while, or remember them…

Oooor just don't give your six year old the password. I have an 11 year old, and she has no idea of my password to pay for things in apps.

IYou're not alone in that experience — it happens to many of us. I was young, dealt with really intense depression during my pregnancy and after, and I just didn't bond with kiddo right away. I love her to death - I would do anything for her, but I never had that initial rush. I think it's really common with first…

Oh yeah. Totally. None. /sarcasm

Wah wah wah.

I just had this conversation with Kiddo (age 11). Leggings are not pants. Repeat. She then pointed to a lady walking down the street in TIGHTS — not leggings — and I conceded that I would rather her wear leggings than tights as pants, but leggings are still not pants.

I talk about reading in person and on facebook. Mostly because I want to talk about the books I'm reading because they're awesome (just the same as I talk about Kiddo, the dog, my day, the weather, etc), and I love hearing other people's perspectives or recommendations.

I cut mine up and made a killer Halloween costume — I was Neil Gaiman's TARDIS, and it was AWESOME!

Due to MN allowing GLBT marriage, my partner and I can now get legally married! So, on our five year wedding anniversary we are getting married again! Second time around dress shopping!!!

As a side note, if your family needs resources for your sister, you can message me about it.

I don't mind answering.

I'm a mom of an 11 year old kiddo with higher needs. I had an abortion 7 years ago and never felt any guilt about it at all. I didn't want another kid. I didn't want a kid with the partner I was with. So, I had an abortion and didn't feel guilty about it, and still don't.

"This is the moment where nothing is right, safe, nor sacred"