You think she is perfect for you. She is your ideal in looks and style and attitude. And you can’t live without her. Of course that is the problem. YOU HAVE BEEN LIVING WITHOUT HER ALL THIS TIME!

IMO, while getting married after knowing each other for a few months CAN work out, just because it does doesn’t make it a good idea. You simply can’t really learn enough about a person after only being with them that long. Your wife’s parents no-doubt worked hard on their marriage, and that’s great. I’m happy it…

I don’t disagree with the generalization concept. I think there is an element of truth to it, but its not remotely a hard rule.

Yeah, that struck me as an overbroad generalization, though one that made sense to trot out in this case.

If your wife’s parents committed very quickly after falling into a mutually supportive, healthy relationship, that’s substantially different than what is described in this letter.

I know that thinking it can be fixed and thinking it’s his fault.
But he is painting with a lot of black here.
Hopefully the writing was a form of breaking up, and hopefully the response from you is permission enough for him to get out

I’m with you on this one. Normally, I’m a big fan of Dr Nerdlove, and have gone on record saying so, but this bit threw me off a little. Seems unfair to generalize that people looking to commit early are all “red flags.” My parents dated for less than a year and have been married for 30 something years. Same with my…

Weird, my wife’s parents got engaged after only a few months of dating and have been happily married with three kids for at least 40 years now.