Dude, for fucking seriously. ALL of my neighbors have chickens, most have bees, some grow their own hops for beer, and one has a goat to trim the lawn. It sounds super hipstery, because we're in a major metropolitan area, until you walk into my backyard in the fall and see two neighbors helping each other butcher…

What ever happened to people supporting each other? my husband's conservative family shit a brick when they found out he was willing to quit his job and move cross country to support my career. A decision that was only between the two of us became this mine field of gender role expectations. I loved what he said,…

you are absolutely right. thank you for reminding me that my choices have fuck all to do with anyone else.

he's come a long way, and we're still young so I'm not going to give up on him. what I meant by him acting like more of a feminist than he thinks he is: Pro choice, key witness at a friend's rape trial where he expressed disgust at the idea that her clothing meant she was "asking for it," etc. he's just uncomfortable…

Yeah, pretty groundbreaking shit that there are different people in the world, right? I bet if I looked really hard I could even find a male feminist!

hah, well, I guess I've been outed as a computer illiterate. thanks :-)

we've been friends since elementary school, and even though we disagree about a lot of things, he's still a great friend. it's hard when you find qualities in your friends or family that you dislike, but friendship is ultimately about more than aligning political views. and my post wouldn't give you this information,…

I didn't realize that when I started responding. is there any way to ignore them after the fact?

To be fair, at that point in history almost everyone was essentially required to be religious.

I do agree with you on that. But how do you get millions of people to start calling an idea by a different name? Humanism is already taken, and FemManGLBTQChildIsm just sounds awkward.

OH MY GOD THANK YOU FOR EDUCATING ME! Here I was thinking that white men never deal with poverty, discrimination, domestic violence, cancer or paper cuts.

You have just insulted a huge group of people. Is that what you meant to do?

He's a very wealthy, white, well-educated only child. He tends to get a little uppity when anyone reminds him that he automatically has it easier than most other people.

Where did people get this idea that feminism means wanting men and women to be featureless clones?

Why is it an either/or situation? If you're a humanist, you're also a feminist (unless you're a very strange humanist who hates women, but I don't think that's likely.) You can be a feminist without being Secular Humanist. There are plenty of Christian, Muslim, and Jewish feminists, so I think you can be humanist…

That was totally me. For years, I said that I couldn't be a feminist because I thought men and women should be equal. It took a feminist friend to wake me up and say, "You know that's the point, right?"

thank you for that, I was just about to say. but... at least he didn't say 'Golden Labradors'?

Is that really a thing people cluck over? I'm terrified of having a baby because (among other things) it opens up a whole new world of judgement.

So, this is my own very limited experience. But: A sick deer ended up in my front yard. Animal control came, and said "We can't move it while it's alive." Called city police and within thirty seconds of pulling into my driveway, one of the cops shot the deer in the head. With a shotgun. Twice.

Amen.
My now-husband and I went to our first friend's wedding several years ago. We both had full time jobs and I withdrew $100 cash to put in the envelope because my gift was more of a cute thing than a useful thing. He said "That seems like a bit much for a present, I usually give people like twenty bucks and a…