I’m 32 and have a baby and still am not sure if I’ve had a “real” relationship or not!!

Seconding that nothing is wrong with you (at least, nothing discernible from a three line comment). If anything, there’s probably stuff right with you? Some of us get kind of a late start. I had my share of dates and some pointless, badly matched ‘relationships’ that really weren’t, that lasted extremely short periods…

holy shit, right!? I don’t even think I could make my brain think that thought, much less my mouth say that sentence, when in conversation with a child.

He responded to a nine-year old: “You won’t be saying that when you’re 40 and you’ve got cobwebs in your box.”

Just once please someone name names. Like that heavy hitter agents secretary. Do more of that, not this. Because this we already know.

I found out my ex was cheating when I was 8 months pregnant. I locked down emotionally and decided I could stick it out for two years, instead of taking my toddler and soon-to-be-newborn and trying to manage on my own. I was a SAHM so I frankly needed that financial security.

Seriously, Jane is great at some stuff but that was terrible advice. She’s somebody I would absolutely be friends with IRL but I’d always be “Oh girl, NO” whenever she tried to give advice. I don’t think I’ve read a single column of Ask Jane yet that hasn’t made me angry. :(

I immediately thought she broke her birth control device and was like: “Damn, girl!” Even I never managed that.

what the f kind of advice did you give to question 1

Word to all of this.

LW 1: GET OUT. Do not listen to this advice here and get out now. It’s not going to get better.

The amount of time that affair continued, along with the lengths he went to to cover it up tell me one thing: He won’t stop. He sounds messed up. You sort of have to be to carry something on like that for so long. My husband carried on a affair for a long time and eventually came clean to me. He also has some…

Yeah she pretty much needs to get hardcore. And fast.

And that, ladies and gentlemen, is how you DTMFA!

You should write this column.

All! Of! This!!

I know we will have to co-parent, regardless of the outcome, so we are both seeking counseling in order to work through issues to be better parents. I just don’t know what is right, or at least, what other people would do in a situation like this.

Where do you live? I have maybe one or two friends who had kids before 30. Most had their first around 35, I was 37 when I had my son

There is nothing wrong with you! I didn’t have a real relationship until I was 25 when I met my (now) husband. My experience with marriage has been mostly positive. We get along really well and have a lot of the same hobbies.