Don't worry, fooltheworld, I also have sympathy for your bad choice in partners!

Yes, you can be non-vanilla, but she didn't exactly advertise this, did she? She advertised turning a new leaf. If she was upfront that she wanted to maintain her lifestyle while pursuing a relationship, that would be a different issue. And, of course, her dating pool would shrink, significantly.

At this moment in time there are two tiny people completely dependent on me and my wife. Tell me, what other minutae disagreements would be excellent opportunities for us to reconsider our future together?

Unfair? Well, I don't know. I don't really think it is.

It's misogyny to point out that a large number of women constantly pursue external sources of validation? Whatever, it's the truth.

I was equally harsh to that guy pining for the girl that just dumped him, actually I was MORE harsh to him.

I like the sex part.

Of course not. Reality makes my statement true.

Analogies aren't your forte, are they? (facepalm)

''Someone, please give me a perspective on this to make me feel better.''

Funny, you've just described about 50% of all marriages men enter. Just switch the pronouns.

You know. Dan was once the spearhead of eliminating double standards against straight men.

Dude, she wants to be in a relationship, just without the sex and without acknowledging in any way shape or form that you have needs of your own.

Great, and what would you do if YOU WERE IN A BAND and one of your bandmembers started to spend all his time jamming away with another band? Would that be kosher?

'' I just don't know how long it will take before I'm really ready to see someone else.''

Oh, I am sorry. I believed he was looking at real advice instead of empty pats on the back.

Totally. Veto that sh*t. Tell him ''If you want to destroy your life, go ahead, but I ain't taking any part in this. I don't want to hear you talking about her. You need to find someone else, instead of latching on to her. She is using you. You need to cut off any contact with her. This is the last thing I'll say on…

Online dating… your right hand will be thrilled.

With someone else? No. Why would I? Maybe you get off on it. But to most people keeping sex pics with their ex is nothing but a sign of disrespecting your current partner.

She wants to have kids, i.e. a family. ''It seemed like I needed to give that up to have a marriage and family, which, as I get into the later half of my 30s, it seems like I better get going on if I want this to happen.''