because assholes unfortunately don’t always come with a label on their heads.

Yes, me wanting to only date a naturally physically born woman sure is crazy. I’m such a outlier. How will I ever find a non-obese woman who is shorter than me? Guess that is the risk of living.

Its a physical attraction issue.

Sure, but this is a physical attraction thing.

Yes, but the question is when do I find out.

so I don’t know what was said

I havent been looking through the comments so I don’t know what was said,

Some of the people here in the last discussion was very adamant that it was the Person A responsibility to ask if Person B was trans. That if they pass well enough, and you never asked, then its not deception when you find out, just because you never asked. “Well, you never asked” is not a defense.

Well good luck to you and your deceptions.

k.

if they are both physically and emotionally attractive to you...when you wouldn’t even know the difference unless told.

It ignored that part because I had already addressed that.

Yeah, yeah, that sounds like great dinner date time conversation.

Yours is because it ignores the very real prospect that a trans woman may face violence due to just existing as a trans person.

So ill ask you the same thing ill ask everyone else.

That is a terrible analogy.

Yeah, which is why I said this:

Gender identity are not the same thing as race

Honesty, I would think that if I was a woman, and a date asked me “Hey, I don’t mean anything offensive but...are you trans?” I would think, that they think, that I look like a non-passing trans woman. And it would make me at the very least rather self conscious.

entire meal with a preop woman and not notice anything slightly amiss?