He has never shown any kind of penchant for going against the grain. Where is your opstimism coming from? This is not optimism, this is delusion. I could see if we were talking about someone else, but we’re talking post-titty-gate Justin Timberlake. Like, I can’t even wrap my mind around this it’s so silly an…

I think if Michelle was gonna step out on Barack, it would not be with Bill.

You know why men like Harvey Weinstein exist? Because there are 1000 girls (and guys) WILLING to suck his dick to get on screen.

It always surprises me that people get all over Kim for using her assets to make money. At least she’s making the money and not someone who is controlling her (unless you count her mom). I work hard in a very traditional profession after a lot of education but I’m not mad at Kim for using her looks and sex appeal to…

It seems like Pink is always thisclose to having a good message, but, you’re right, it’s always served with a side of internalized misogyny. It’s like how I refused to wear pink and skirts when I was a kid, but when I grew up I realized that femininity is no less valid and legit than masculinity. I guess she hasn’t…

That OK sign is an alt-right signal so I guess we know what fan base that is Jenna.

an island we took to piss off the Spanish

You can literally die any day at any moment by anything ranging from being hit by a bus or having a freak aneurysm. Save as you will, but if you’re missing out on things you’d like to do/experience now thinking you’d be able to do them in the future anyways, just be warned.

you say you’re empathetic to the victim, but you obviously are not. what you’re describing is not an attempt to actually understand what it feels like to be sexually assaulted and traumatised. you are empathising with the assaulter and are unable to empathise with the victim. that says a lot about your mental state.

Okay, ask yourself this- is it an island of American citizens?

Yeah — he claims to have thought she was awake, but then later on indicates that he was somewhat surprised when she spoke up.

Are you fucking kidding me?!!! Sticking your finger INSIDE someone that does not want your finger inside them and is not aware you are doing it, that is not allowed to be considered as a life altering sexual assault?! FUCK OFF.

I’m confused at to why we need an “open discussion” on crime. If I go out and beat someone on the street, should there be a “discussion” about whether I’m a dangerous and unstable individual or not?

And even if it’s plausible that he believed she was awake (which it isn’t), he still admits that she “didn’t invite anything”! He admittedly knew she wasn’t inviting anything-i.e. consenting-but he still pretends he thought it was okay engage with her sexually? Nope.

Yup, even scarier than a person assaulting you is learning the people around you will not protect you. I always appreciate hearing about the helpers-because it gives us hope-and because it fights against the idea that predatory behavior is normal.

I agree. I’m not buying that he believed she was awake. I think he thought he could maybe convince her to get into it if she did wake up. It was entitlement to someone else’s body no matter what. Idk. I’m feeling so angry and sad after reading this.

First off, thanks for sharing. You are very brave. Second, I am just so filled with rage at this guy’s response. I assume you made a choice not to use the word “rape” because it might shut him down. But he never owned up. He never said “I sexually assaulted you.” He kept referring to “what happened,” like it was the…

I admittedly am bringing some of my own history to the table, but is anyone else frustrated by how he refuses to name what he did?

I think he’s convinced himself that you were awake so he doesn’t have to call himself a rapist - just naive. Jesus.

The premise is interesting. “I didn’t want to be one of those people’ implies that prior to becoming one, they were acutely aware of what sexual assault was and what ‘those people,’ the perpetrators, are.