As a person who doesn’t want kids myself, I’ve read at least one interview with her on the subject where she very efficiently articulates why women should be able to choose not to have children without people thinking they’re selfish or, alternatively, showering them with pity.

Yeah, when that application surfaced she should have just said “I was young and this family story made me feel special and different. It was a mistake and I’ve learned from that.” Although I guess she was still talking about being Native American well after that so that wouldn’t really work.

It’s “roll call”. Sorry that I’m being pedantic, but so are you.

I’m so sorry. My first experience happened when I was 16 so I think it’s easier to talk about because I can create a narrative around it. I was kind of a kid still (more than I recognized at the time) but I was able to understand what was happening, even if I wasn’t equipped yet to stop it or fully not blame myself.…

I’m so sorry. I was talking to a grieving friend recently and she said “grief is cyclical” which is probably a common saying but it was the first time I’d heard it and it rang very true. We like to think that we have this hill to climb and once we get to the top it’ll be over so it’s awful when you’re reminded that it…

Yeah I still haven’t parsed through all my various experiences and where they fall on the spectrum, and I think at this point I’m not going to. For years I felt a lot of pressure to put distinct labels on each thing that’s happened, both for myself (“how much of a violation was that? how victimized should I feel?”)…

I would posit that he has managed to integrate thin hair, too short, and somehow also both a handlebar mustache AND a soul patch.

I remember at one point casually saying to a friend something like “you know when something reminds you of someone who sexually assaulted you and you’re just a crazy person again for a minute” and she was like “I’ve never been sexually assaulted” and I was like “Oh! Wait really?!” because at this point that seems so…

I was also struck by how in the 90s one with Stella Umeh they called her a “specimen” and kept talking about how “strong” women usually can’t dance. Jaw-dropping coded racism in there. I do hope these videos going viral is part of that falling away.

Thank you!

Ah gotcha. I’m not up on the back story.

There are apparently actually a number of health conditions that can cause erratic behavior. After a few incidents where I blacked out or acted really strangely while completely sober, I got a surprisingly benign and easily treatable diagnosis. Bodies are complicated.

To be fair it seems like Davidson only got all crazy with the media when he started with Grande. If your SO is social media obsessed I could see trying to keep up as a natural way of preserving your own public persona. But, not a problem I’ve ever had so ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

Watch his specials and listen to his albums! I have very few celebrity crushes but he is one of them.

So I’ve been having chronic stomach problems for several months now and as a result can frequently only get by on protein shakes and the like. So I can speak from the perspective of someone who is frequently fasting: it is miserable. I’m fatigued, and at least 3 times a week I have vivid dreams about cooking food that…

Also, and this is a very specific pet peeve, but I don’t like the message it sends to men. My ex was freaking gigantic and it sucked because there were positions that just hurt because we were not proportional. Big dick does not equal good sex for everyone. Current hookup is smaller but clearly closer to whatever size…

I am by no means that hot but I did live in a country where my blonde-pale-ass self was seen as very exotic and desirable, and it’s already a place prone to some pretty aggressive catcalling/staring/etc. I literally never left the house without my headphones after the first couple weeks because of the truly disgusting…

I am very comfy in my in-between space. Guys in their twenties no longer hit on me unless they mistake me for younger, so that’s a big relief. I still do well with guys in my general age range, but the creepiness factor has still gone way down. I actually worry very little about my sexual attraction factor — I’m not a…

I think both of these things can exist at once. It is 100% true that people of color have far more outrageous attacks on them over their hair (like that poor kid who had his head shaved at a wrestling match recently, wtf people). It’s also true that as a minimally hairy white lady, as a straight lady I spend my time…

Also, I know I’m the kind of libertine these dudes don’t like to consider, but my dude and I always use condoms for penetrative sex but there are other ways to ingest this magical substance.