Her response was an utter disaster and very much wrong in pretty much all the ways you can be wrong. But I’m oddly empathetic for her. We all have different personalities and listening to this I was like “oh shit, I hope I wouldn’t but I totally might do something like this” because my friendship style is pretty much…

That is kind of fascinating because I don’t quite understand it. What is “the tribe”?

Forgive me y’all, wrote that before I had my coffee. Take away was meant to be: I thought they were going to tackle a really fascinating historical topic, instead they had one white man meet one black man and that was supposed to be inspirational.

I’m extra mad because as a white lady who travels a lot, I only learned about the actual Green Book maybe 2 years ago and it broke my heart, thinking about having to have a book to even know where you could use the restroom. Or maybe eat or sleep if you’re lucky. Obviously I knew about Jim Crow laws but I hadn’t…

Also we don’t know what she saw, or what she was subjected to (nor should we!!). Bringing up past abuse is miserable. On a public platform I’m sure it’s even worse. I’ve been through it and I know that I can be perfectly normal and then someone says something and I have to spend the next few hours trying not to lose…

Also I think if my late grandmother had figured out the internet, she would have adored your screen name.

I was raised Buddhist, the hippy North American version to boot, and even I know that this is not even remotely Buddhist. It’s actually quite counter-Buddhist. Ego, aspiration, desire, all the things implied by that phrase... not at all part of the ethos. Not that I oppose those things! But seriously not part of that…

I’ve lived in (and dated in) some super machisto parts of the world and I can confirm that. But I do think we ladies catch on fairly early in our dating life. Someone tells me something stupid about what my hair looks like and I shrug and it affects his ability to get some 0%. Someone says something that is clearly…

Yeah I mean a lot of people, regardless of gender, struggle to express themselves on vulnerable topics... but it’s also so true that men in particular are socialized against it. So the awkwardness is kind of endearing. One dude that I’m casually dating said recently “I... just... really... like... hanging... out...…

I’ve read all of your Native-focused pieces on Splinter and I appreciate them immensely. You do a wonderful job of getting into the details while also hand-holding those of us who are not very well informed. I grew up in the urban North East so while I think/hope I was basic-level-not-an-asshole (e.g. understanding…

It’s also weird to me because even my male friends who wouldn’t necessarily be categorized as “conventionally attractive” (but seriously you just have to look harder, shallow folks) get their fair share of action. It is very hard for me to conceptualize a universe in which raping a person in a coma is your best option…

I just moved for the third time in two years and every single time I’ve gotten rid of tons of stuff, and I still have way too much. Waaaay too much. But every time I do a purge there ends up being like, one item out of the 8,000 items that two months later I actually need and I’m furious, so it makes it so hard for…

Eh — dunno. I have only mild mental health issues but one of them manifests as truly, truly terrible life management skills. I get by, but if I had enough money to pay my very responsible and organized father a decent salary to manage all that stuff for me, I would do it in a heartbeat. Not saying I’d sign up for the…

I’m pretty pro-actively slutty and as far as I know have never dated a virgin, because my first time on my late teens was with a dude a few years older... but even with my sex drive, at 12 I was still in the “why do i think this person is amaaazing but i don’t know how to talk to them?!” phase of my romantic life.

Did anyone else see the in-between try, post-spray-on, pre-return-to-natural? There was a clip of an interview with him on either Colbert or Seth Meyers and I noticed that he seemed to be wearing a more subtle version of fake hair.

Well also it sounds like they’ve discussed it if he’s telling Rolling Stone about it, so I think that’s ok. If it’s out of left field, that’s just obnoxious.

Me too, I woke up my roommate who was sleeping on the couch!

And the logic defies me. If a creepy person has some kind of fetish with peeping in bathrooms for the opposite gender, adopting an entirely fake new identity seems like the absolute most difficult way to accomplish one’s goal. Also are these people not aware that gay and lesbian folks manage to share with people who…

Yeah a friend of mine has the flip side of this problem. She has a joint problem, so by the end of the day she’s always in a lot of pain. But she looks like a perfectly healthy 25 year old, so people can be really rude to see her seated on public transit.

When my mid-20s super nova of a romance flamed out, the night he moved out of our apartment I sobbed so wildly that two separate neighbors left me notes letting me know to ask if I needed help! I couldn’t even talk to him without literally puking for months. My coworkers were convinced I was pregnant.