Forgiveness is not letting the attacker off with a “pass.” It’s about saving yourself. There are people for whom holding onto anger and hate and resentment can begin to have actual physical and mental consequences and forgiveness can help them get their lives back. You can’t appreciate it until you’ve met somebody who…

“It shouldn’t be incumbent upon Jama, the victim of a heinous crime, to forgive her attacker, but somehow that often seems to be the case.”