Giving acknowledgement to the comments in this thread, I’d like to petition The Root to implement a “NOT THE ONION” tag for future stories such as this.

This is an interesting point.

But there kind of is a cure, maybe not for the ones who are already adults, but we can certainly prevent further damage. A lot of these guys are introverts, and as such, they probably don’t get much in the way of “social conditioning” I would know because I used to be the same way. So when all you do is consume media…

Entitlement is definitely a contributor to this. Men feel entitled to a woman. If life doesn’t hand them what they feel they are owed, they get angry. Women on the other hand....(at least this one)....so I’m not getting sex, not everyone gets to have the loving guy and awesome relationship and white picket fence or…

The follow up then becomes why do men get frustrated about lack of control? And that stems back to their ideas about masculinity. They believe to be a man they need to be in control. The solution to all of this is helping men understand that there is no one way to be a man or manly: skinny/fat , emotional/stoic,…

Part of it comes from the belief that the world is ever-changing, and behaviors that were once tolerated, aren’t anymore. That’s why you see the Mens’ Rights Activism bullshit. “Well, pinching her ass is a form of flattery!”. Some of the most insufferable fucking people on the planet.

I think it goes beyond sexual frustration - it’s frustration that they are not in control of a woman or women.

I also have an 11-year-old daughter and she is limited to Instagram, which I check CONSTANTLY. I’m constantly snooping in her stuff and I will continue to do so until she’s in college.

I’ve heard sooo many people (usually men) in these cases say “female rejection drove him to extremes,” as though he was a nice normal guy until those evil women rejected him and then he suddenly committed mass murder. They never consider it could be the other way around. It’s far more likely women picked up on the…

Man, that last line is on the nose and sadly true.

The creepy thing is that they clearly aren’t interested in a real relationship, they just want a suitably hot woman to take care of them like a mom but also be available for sex whenever and never say no to stuff like anal.

Yeah, he was really cute and had a ton of money. But watching his video it’s clear he must have given off those creepy sociopath vibes like a subwoofer.

Seriously, part of it is just laziness. I deal with this all the time when teaching social skills to teenagers. “You have to act a certain way to get people to like you and to get the reactions you’d like from authority figures.” Girls: *nod* Boys who obviously go on reddit a lot: “That’s so stupid!! Why should I?”…

Based on his manifesto, that’s a lot of what fueled his rage. He was wealthy, privileged, conventionally attractive and white(ish) so he felt entitled to female attention and didn’t understand why he wasn’t getting it. Turns out dysfunctional bitterness isn’t attractive to women, go figure.

They are fairly careful in their rhetoric, but I get the impression they believe women should be devalued for not being “enough”. They don’t usually say it explicitly because it ruins their pity party propaganda, but if you ask them direct questions they sometimes give the game away.

And isn’t it interesting that they’re pissed that women want “Chads” yet they themselves only want to bed “Stacys”...

Yeah and the thing is, many women would be sympathetic to their feelings of being devalued for not being attractive, wealthy or popular enough. Hell, all of us (including blond sorority girls) struggle with fears of not being “good enough.” It’s not their mediocre looks or social skills that make us recoil and avoid…

My daughter is eleven. Right now she’s at a phase in her life where her friend group is equally boys and girls and she cherishes them all. There are hints of little crushes here and there, but mostly, they’re still kids.

The incel ideology terrifies me. Because I’ve been that lonely guy, who was unable to date, who was a virgin until his 30s. I had terrible self esteem, and it took a lot of therapy and self improvement to get to a better place in my life. And believe me, there are so many people out there like me, who feel lonely and…

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