I'm afraid to watch that.

Having read this article, I wouldn't want my kid going to this place. Henry Louis Gates must have some stories to tell.

Absolutely. I was only talking about my own college experience.

What are you on about? Of course we didn't all have the same majors or connections or grad schools. Who said anything about that? What's your point about the "intangibles" you think I'd never understand?

Well, I've lived in Massachusetts for much of my life in an area that has a lot of discussions about "old money" vs. "new money." One of my classmates' summer homes — that's a classmate with more than one summer home, to be clear — had a private plane landing strip. There were also buildings on campus named for her…

What are the odds that none of the white male students have posted pics of themselves at some "ghetto party?"

And he was a scholarship student?

Come on, now. You should know that Exeter ranks well above Andover! That said, I went to college with kids from all of those schools except Lawrenceville, and most of them were pretty cool. Some were insanely privileged, but still people I'd hang out with.

They don't want boys to be "weak" and "sensitive." Or considerate. Or tolerant. or accepting. (Grr; don't get me started.)

You're cool. I went to college with several boarding school survivors.

My public school education allowed me to attend the same college as some of these people. (Although, actually, not because I knew students from the other six of "the Seven," but not Lawrenceville.) Those of us on financial aid who didn't get to the Caribbean for break consoled ourselves that we were all attending…

As I'm re-reading your first comment (sleep is a good thing!), I'm now wondering if the data linked in this article represents anything less rape. Because absolutely, what behavior can be defined as sexual assault varies, but I'm inclined to think many people use "sexual assault" only referencing rape. Going to…

My mother once told me, "Don't marry a man from a third world country." She said that after having so many international students who were quite intelligent in some ways and (by Western standards, at the least) very, very ignorant in others. :/

#notallwomen

FWIW, you're not likely to know if a college has adjudicated a sexual assault (or other incident) unless a case goes to court or is publicized like the one mentioned here. You can get crime stats, but I don't know of schools publishing their judicial stats.

*higher requirements

You want both. You do not want a student accused of a shooting, using one of your examples, only to be addressed by the legal system. A college judicial process means that student can be suspended.

Actually, a college can suspend/excel before the legal process is complete, but it a) has to know about the incident if it happened off campus, and b) have a very good conduct code. I've seen students removed.

I posted this elsewhere; schools do not have to have the same process as the legal system: http://jezebel.com/that-depends-n…

So I don't disagree with the football comment, except . . . Other athletes assault people, and non-athletes do, too.