I'm sorry this happened to you. Cops are a joke when it comes to rape cases. The entire legal system fails victims all of the time.

Beautifully put.
I'm not sure why men comment on these discussions thinking that they have some sort of insight on how to handle these situations, when women have learned through trial and error and over many years of different experiences that there is no 'correct' way to handle assault or unwanted attention. Each man…

Thanks for putting this so well! So many times we are at the mercy of the men involved and don't have the luxury of 'choosing' whether to escalate or deescalate.

Thanks for the chuckle.

Yuppp! I love the doublethink that goes on in these discussions. Here are some of my absolute favourites: When you're assaulted they say "why would you even be alone with a man, you must have known what he wanted, you know what men are like". BUT If you are catcalled or faced with unwanted advances: "you're too…

I kind of hate her too. She's a person I try to keep a comfortable distance from, that's for sure.

Good for you. I hope that if someone tries to fuck with me again I can channel your amazing spirit.

I think she would say, "Don't you feel good knowing that you even look good in sweats!? The guy is just trying to tell you how hot you are!"

Unfortunately it's my fucking sister. Otherwise I wouldn't have even begun an argument with them about it. She thinks every feminist complaint boils down to "devaluing masculinity". She loves being catcalled and thinks it's your fault if you don't like it, because (quote) "If you put on a pair of jeans thinking they…

I don't think MRAs believe that rape actually exists so I doubt we'll get much support from them. It's frightening that people don't seem to think this stuff through. Sadly for one woman I know it took actually getting raped for her to realise that it's not a matter of the victim not doing enough, just the matter of…

Recently in my city two girls were sexually assaulted by a man in the street at 1:30 am. My family goes, "well nowhere is safe at that time of night, she shouldn't have been out at that time". Mm. Ok. Then a few days later another girl was sexually assaulted by (a different) man at 9:00 pm. My family goes, "well why…

The line seems to be if and only if you think you're actually seconds from rape & death otherwise you're just overreacting. And if you don't manage to fight the dude off at that point then it's your fault for not carrying a weapon with you. /recently had an argument with someone where they actually said something like…

I've had guys swing for me (and miss thankfully) after I've rejected their groping/verbal advances. Sadly this reaction is all too common and it is the beast that lies just behind all of those 'compliments' that women receive all day, it frustrates me to no end the way women are told we are overreacting (always by…

Well she's not really wrong.

Tim Hortons is pretty shitty though you have to admit.

I lived in Canada for long enough to know that Tim Hortons is quantifiably shit but all Canadians apparently have to pretend to love it's stale muffins and crappy donuts in order to be allowed to stay.

It's something Beyonce does for the song Flawless, she flashes certain key words from the speech part of the song on the background screen- on her tour earlier this year she flashed "FEMINIST" and it stayed up for a good 5-6 seconds before she started her song, so it's definitely something she wants to emphasize.

What an embarrassing idiot you are.

Also in the UK here, I've been on tumblr and there's lots of good links and stuff on there, there have been a few articles about it in news but I prefer to get the story from eyewitnesses generally. It's fucking awful and has had me feeling very disturbed all week.

I think you're missing a few things. First the cop stopped him and initiated a physical altercation without ever issuing orders such as "you're under arrest' "get down" "Hands behind your back" etc etc, he just started choking the kid through the window of his car and trying to pull him into the vehicle. Brown tried…