...says every man who ever raped me. really. i'm no fun when i'm not having sex because i want to.

you've seen maitresse?

so, so very true.

oh, my god. i thought i was the only one who cringed at the TV like that. there's a mother-daughter pair who run away from me at the two starbucks where i knit; we were friends until i caught the daughter tell the mother i'm crazy because i talk to myself and told them that lipreading is so easy for me it was a shame…

i'm not sure why everyone hates you! my "ex" (gay bestie, attached at the hip for a few years, spent 16 hours a day together most days all that time) took me to see (the new) texas chainsaw massacre. surprised me with it. and that is one of the best things about that guy. he wouldn't let me open my eyes until we were…

agreed!

didn't read the article; i hate "dating up" and "dating down," for whichever of the two reasons: looks or money. i have recently turned down a wonderful, amazing proposal because the person attached to it is a felon hiding from other felons.

oh, boy, i could totally imagine one of my ex's twins being that way this year. i miss them so much and they turn three in november. all these milestones i'll always miss.

me too! the funny thing is, a lot of my friends just sign "shit" with their kids anyway. i mean, there's only one word in ASL for excretion. but what's interesting is who mouths "shit" and who mouths "poop," and i think i'd be in the "shit" camp. i mean, my mother would always refer to them as "bowel movements," which…

practice when she's not around. "crotch area" is just not gonna cut it. and to this day i can never tell whether i was too ashamed to talk to my father about needing menstrual pads because he was really weird about "girls and boys" or because he had already checked out my naked tween body. i think the incest had been…

the last sentence means that if we want to be immoral we say "misogynists are worth making out...i don't care what kind of a sleaze he is, he's kissable!"

yeah, a former friend told me that i chose before i was born to be a rapist in my previous life, and to be raped hundreds of times in this life to understand the flip side of the experience.

thank you for #4. i just realized yesterday that i can't attend my high school or college reunion if my serial rapist, abuser, and stalker is going to be there. he beat and raped me for four years straight and a few more times after that. locked me in his closet for hours on end in college, with the light off. i'm…

isha has some of the worst grammar and spelling. that she did a nice job on a story that basically blames every single woman who doesn't forgive her rapist and look him in the eye in a courtroom is telling.

that's very true and people don't want to talk about it. (suffering turned inward/outward.) i was told by my therapists, women, that the answer to my rapes was within me, and that i had to understand inside myself why i had been raped. it caused more anger and more complicated anger; i was told that i could never ask…

i'm really sorry about what happened to you...don't worry about forgiving them, just make sure you find an outlet for your anger. it took me far too long to release my anger and now i'm a very publicly emotional person and fall apart at everything. i wasn't willing to "forgive my rapists" and at the time there were…

it's the wrong term. it's not the right wording at all. it's about forgiving yourself and letting go of your fear and anger, but it isn't the right way to put it. it's disgusting. it puts the onus on the survivor...again.

this article is shitty. it's very clear from a lot of the wording that the author wants to shame women who don't press charges. it creates a false atmosphere that this woman is the only one who knows how to handle forgiveness and pressing charges against her rapist. it creates a false atmosphere of safety for women…

yes; i'm really fucking displeased with the asshole who wrote this article. it's a fucking disgrace to feminism to say that now that this woman has done this we're all safe going to court and facing our rapists. fuck you, asshole; the police officer, a woman, with the sexual crimes squad, intimidated, laughed at,…

actually, i don't really think rapists often become rapists because they have too much pain to carry around not to inflict it on others. a lot of rapists love what they see in their victims: fear. they're usually just entitled jerks. i don't think it helps to see rapists as a whole as people who deserve compassion.…