I was able to curb the whining by immediately noticing the tone and saying whatever I want to respond back to them in exactly the same annoying tone, but exaggerated. Whine right back at them x10. Whining annoys everyone. Even whiners. This is one of the few “eye for an eye” opportunities in parenting, too. It’s very…

I didn’t really “decide” with the first one. Then, once I had one child, I decided to keep having more because they became the focus of my life, so my thought was kind of “I’m going to do this wholeheartedly and well, so I might as well do it all now then they’ll be grown and gone by the time I’m in my 40s, and I can…

It’s going to be a lot harder on your body than it is on his. Maybe you can get him to understand this and to accordingly give your position on the matter more weight than his own.

Yeah, but you are more likely to have chronic health problems. It’s not like there is no relationship between aging and health decline... I think it’s worth considering if you want your child to have a great life. Picturing yourself when they are in their 20s is important.

What’s your take on their aging that you are having to deal with now? My dad was in his late 40s and I’ve never really connected with him, and I think one of the reasons is because he’s just so old. Thankfully, my mom is healthy enough to take care of him, but if not, I’d be really overwhelmed taking care of them both…

Why does it make you so mad? It’s kind of a neutral response really. It’s weird to say “Congratulations” when the baby hasn’t been born yet and rude to say “Oh shit, you’re in for it,” so people just go for something like that.

I hear you on this. I think it’s important to have a yard, like you do for big dogs. “Go outside and play,” saves me daily.

The older you get, the harder on the back, the easier on the wallet.

or Emma.

Mine is like yours. We were spending a lot of long nights getting to know everything about each other and just flipping about how well aligned our beliefs, attractions, interests, attitudes were. We are both feminists and feminism factors into a lot of our discussions. We were talking about the “women and children”…

I agree. However, I think if we are going to hold teachers up as pinnacles of righteousness, their own education, vetting process, review process, and compensation, should include measures and rewards for those merits from the get-go. Instead, they are often viewed as pseudo-mothers to our children, who,…

I agree with you entirely. If there is that much responsibility, there should be an according amount of respect. I don’t see it. I thought this would be an interesting point to bring up on Jezebel, given that the majority of teachers are women. I don’t think it’s a coincidence that teachers actions are highly…

It seems like teachers are the targets of these public shaming campaigns more often than other workers. I hear racist crap all the time on my FB feed and no one cares. But if it’s a teacher, all hell breaks loose.

To be fair, he does seem to demonstrate a remarkable amount of sympathy for his own abuser as well.

That’s a lot of pregnant employees at one company!!

I think you don’t know what a cervix is.....

I can’t wait to shave my head when no one gives a shit about what I look like. It’ll feel so cool :)

I recommend Calling Invisible Women by Jeanne Ray for a humorous fictional portrayal of this phenomenon. It’s cute, short, and meaningful.

So, is your allowance equal?

So time to take this one out and dust it off again, huh?