But so many other rights to privacy have dissolved...? I am befuddled. Going to read the New Yorker and come back.

Maybe that’s what they mean, but if that was the logic, wouldn’t they make it contingent on the finding of birth defects, without talking about incest? I’m not buying that as the reason.

This is awesome! We can also use this for testing toxic materials to determine their permeability, something that is just complicated guesswork using estimated ‘dermal flux ratios’ for now.

Great haircuts too!

Does anyone know why they say rape AND incest? Like, isn’t non-consensual incest rape? Is there an exception to allow abortion after 20 weeks in the case of consensual incest? I believe in some cases you can go to jail if you conceive a child from incest. I’m not googling that, and sorry to sound creepy, I do not have…

So funny you said this. I opted for the lipstick instead today, since none of the necklaces I have would have matched my outfit. It definitely helps.

Oh no. You just made it so much harder. Look expensive? I can’t possibly judge that.

I’m 7 mos preggo, so I feel like Tweedle Dee in all of my “respectable” office wear. I will wear a statement necklace tomorrow and see if it brings with it a renewed sense of dignity. Could go either way. Wish me luck. Three hours of meetings, so this is the trial by fire :)

Yay or nay on statement necklaces at the office?

Good point.

Oh my God. I’m so sorry you experienced that. I’m sure it colors some of your experiences now, and often unexpectedly. I hope your partner is understanding and you are in an ok place to talk to him about it. My partner has his own history of abuse, so we work on things together, and try to be gentle. It’s always a…

That is pretty funny.

Maybe it’s because I find it hard to separate the sex act from the person who I did something with, particularly if there are negative feelings around that person (though positive ones too). For example, I dated a fellow who I eventually found out was a pedophile, but while we were together he was very excited…

Ooh- I agree with you, and the author of this article. You can talk plenty about your sexual history without getting into a number. Past sexual partners tend to come up in the conversation though, in my experience, which I thought you were doubting as ‘normal.’ It’s simpler to say a person’s name than working around…

So what if you know what you like? You just pretend like you’re asking your boyfriend to do it to you to try out for the first time? If you say “I like having my hair pulled,” and he’s never done it before, that’s talking about your sexual history.

You’re assuming that everyone has always had a healthy sexuality, and in a pretty judgy way. This is pretty much the only time it comes up in my life with my current partner. I have to explain my feelings that come up during sex because of memories that hurt, in a “It’s not about you- this makes me feel bad…

What’s with that? I feel like telling them they are in the wrong field!

Right? My number is like “well, there were these couple of years...” and then I was married for a long time. I’m much prouder of the marriage holding up as long as it did than the tally marks from then.

Exactly- never getting any call-backs. Conversely, someone staying with you through the honeymoon phase into a LTR is a pretty good indication that your partner liked what you were doing together in the bedroom and that there was some real lasting intimacy going on. So if we’re talking about a partner, that just seems…

That’s truly great! I have had to discuss to work through some issues.