4 months is rough. there is a “fat or pregnant?” stage and you are in the middle of it. the next challenge will be “do i look cute pregnant or do i look like a human rectangle?” apparently pregnancy is not an accessory, despite people magazine’s assertion otherwise.

i gave myself a pass during pregnancy to eat whatever i needed or wanted. i also still took my meds while preg. but theres nothing you can do but surrender to eating. i figured i hadnt ever been able to eat guilt free in my life so pregnancy was my shot to do so. it worked out fine, i only gained 40 lbs and ive raised…

Hey, I am also pregnant and also in recovery from an eating disorder. I am terrified and old stuff keeps coming up. I wish I had some advice but I can’t imagine that I’m handling it any better than you are. I just want to let you know that you’re not alone.

They have some good practical suggestions, like letting your doctor/ nurse know you don’t want to see your weight (one of the authors always stepped on the scale backwards so she couldn’t see number. She felt her doctor would let her know if there was a problem, and not seeing the number stopped her from obsessing.) I…

I know that it happens. I was more using the rhetorical question to comment on how it shouldn’t happen. I can’t believe that people do that shit. How did you not just straight-up murder people?

My feeling is an ED is much like any other addiction. As a recovering addict, I would say it ebbs and flows. My addiction amazes me by it’s presence-how I can be okay for months and then something will trigger me. Please be strong and shut off those voices in your head. Trust your true self. Be healthy. And reach out,…

I don’t knowthat I’m a position to give advice, but you are not alone and I’d like to be here for you as someone who has been through it, if you’d like to talk or commiserate. I’ve battled Bulimia for probably 12 years or so, and pregnancy was the worst. I mean, I had a mild pregnancy, didn’t gain much weight, never…

Lots of people comment on pregnant women’s bodies. The number of time people joked that I had to be having twins was insane. Just one, actually, and I only gained 20 pounds during pregnancy because I was so paranoid.

Mention these things to your OB/GYN at your next appointment. I had been struggling with relapsing with my ED when I got pregnant; my son is 15 months and I’m full-fledged again, looking at in-patient treatment again. I hid it from my OB/GYN and I totally regret it. He/she can help you and get you into therapy with a…

Logging in to say currently 5 months and as someone who struggled with binge eating and bulimia and general disordered eating for years, it is hard. Whip away all my crutches like weed, alcohol, etc and gettinng off Effexor and it has been hard. I have no wise words except I’m taking it one day at a time- also getting…

No advice for you, because yours is a situation I’ve dreaded being in since I was 25. I know my own pregnancy and post-partum will be horrible. I don’t know what ED you’re stuck with, I was anorexic until i ate more than 400 calories a day and then I went hogwild and was bulimic. Even mostly recovered, i still purge…

I know the struggle, but I’ve never been pregnant, so I don’t know what that’s like for you. I’m sorry. I do not have any wise words besides self-care is important and I wish you the best and sending you lots of hugs over the internets. If you ever need someone to talk to, I’m here for you! <3

A sibling once suggested that I tell my mom that what was going on was “overwhelming for me.” Not sure why, but that got through to her. Everyone gets overwhelmed, and no one wants to acknowledge it, so it’s relatable, maybe?

Your baby knows how beautiful you are, and that’s the only opinion that matters. How exciting it will be when they are born and can show you their love! In the meantime, sing them songs that just the two of you know, that you can sing after they are born. (As for me, when I was pregnant was the time I could look at…

I don’t have an eating disorder, but I found the weight/ bod change part of pregnancy really difficult. I really wasn’t prepared for the body issues, so I found this great book, written by two women with eating disorders. I found it helpful, but you’ve probably done a lot more prep than I did! There’s a whole chapter…

No words but an internet hug.

Hang in there sister !

Thank you for the hugs, I really appreciate it. My mom knows but is still very thoughtless in the way she says things.

Right? I don’t even think about other people’s weight.

I don’t have anything specific aside from recommending a professional if you aren’t already, but love and luck. <3