Yeah I never touch that shit!

You and me both! I have a seven year old who tried to negotiate for it so I’m feeling pretty confident. Also got him LEGO in case.

Totally! The whole “why is it always all about her?” And also the never ending pity party just got so exhausting. My life changing book was “Children of the Self-Absorbed”

The detail pic reveals his alien ancestry.

So are they just learning that assholes can be likeable?

That gave me the shivers. Fingers crossed for a good holiday season!

Scapegoating is important to narcissists and borderlines. It sucks that they were so deeply insensitive about your situation. I feel like family should treat you better than they would treat a random stranger asking for help at the grocery store. 

This made me think of the “this is water” YouTube video (David Foster Wallace). 

It really does! I love my life now, my heart is healed and I genuinely like who I am. I hope you find your way, too. If you ever need to chat, let me know! 

She is lucky to have you as a sister. Its wonderful that you accept her quirks and find a way to appreciate her even through her alienating behaviour.

I’ve noticed that some kids are naturally critical and ask questions from the very beginning whereas some will believe no matter what. Reminds me of religious discussions, honestly. I don’t tend to make a big deal out of Santa as my son has wondered if he lives in a police state in the build up to the holidays (“Is he…

I can’t even put into words.

My seven year old discovered Bloody Mary this week at school - with a caveat. Apparently she only appears in girls bathrooms when there is blood in them. Sooooo that’s been interesting to unpack.

They were all for really shitty jobs but it’s nice to have choices!

Also academic life sounds terrifying

I mailed a ton of Christmas cards, turned down multiple job offers and finally sent my in-laws a massive pile of family photographs in time for the holidays!

Yes! Or flip the narrative like I do and act like your Xmas is amazing as-is but that theirs sounds deeply hellish (because honestly, doesn’t it?)

I always brag about how we aren’t travelling or dealing with shitty family. I go all “oh it’s so amazing and intimate, only doing what we want with who we want! No shitty relatives and judgement! We have the best Christmas, it’s amazing!”

I got down really close and said “I know it’s difficult to imagine the same Santa at every mall in the city at the exact same time but this guy sure does look like the real thing and has a letter box so he must have a way of sharing what he collects here.” Then I told him to keep his scepticism to a quiet tone as he…

Depends, did you sign a letter of offer when you started that included a non-compete clause?