I know so many women that did the same combo! Good luck with whatever result you seek.

I love/hate therapy! It’s a wonderfully intimate relationship. The advice I’d offer is similar to everyone else. I read somewhere that it’s a good combo if you leave feeling hopeful. That said, I definitely hit walls in my therapy and felt sometimes like we were going in circles. Trust is tough, very hard to build. I…

Thanks TPI! Yeah my mom was extreme. It’s the whole BPD married to an NPD combo that really takes it next level. Thank god for therapy

I’ve been ignoring my kids all afternoon while I hang out on jezebel and talk about shitty parents. Winning at life, obviously! Edit to add - I think I finally got a burner account out of the greys and promptly fucked up the key so really nailing it! Also my kid asked loudly in the line to see Santa “Is he real, mom?…

Mine is a shit show, figured I was just technically illiterate. Thankful I’m not alone!

This is what the offending dish looks like! Pretty but wouldn’t keep someone warm on an air mattress on the floor. Edit: also not Irish even tho I am a Ginger.

Yep. My mom did it regularly, when I finally called her on it she told me she didn’t feel like buying what I asked for because that didn’t feel thoughtful but that they were such practical gifts she liked them as ideas.

Sounds awful! Hope you kept the necklace and sold the skull.

stolen toys, no less. Wow!

I wish I could hug kid you. My fav Xmas was from a Christmas charity - it was a huge doll. I loved that thing. This year, I got two names of kids from a secret Santa drive (kids signed up by social workers). One was seven, the other two. I went to a toy store on Black Friday like a fucking crazy person and got a door…

Family! I hope you tossed it 

Asshole powers indeed. That’s awful!

That is so gross!!

Thanks Bobby! I feel mostly sorry for her - no contact with one of her kids, not many friends. Not sorry enough to ever want contact tho, ha!

Yay for the NC club! I feel like a walking testament to therapy - I’m in a good place about it but hola competitive so of course I had to trot out one of my shitty mom stories. I’m sure I could have thought of worse. Hilarious that I finally got an account out of the greys and promptly lost the key, thanks mom!

Thanks Captain! I wish Jez would write about borderline mothers, so common and so terrible. Hope you’ve found a healthy path that works for you.

Thank you! She was definitely a crazy, emotional vampire. I’m proud of the ten years! Saved so much in therapy!

Who knows? My hub is literally afraid to get me gifts because of all the family trauma. Gift giving is an excellent opportunity for abusive and manipulative behaviour.

It helps to have a lot of support and be thick skinned. A lot of friends were really judgemental when I did it (not to mention my in laws) but having a partner who stood up with me helped enormously. That said, they still crazy stalk me sometimes and that’s exhausting.

What an asshole! So nasty