“If you’re going to have kids, you are obligated to do what you can for them. It stops at 18? People need help. And if you brought a person into the world that needs extra help and you’re able to help them, why are they suddenly not your responsibility.”

She’s doing a lot more than what a good parent should do. She’s sending her kid to college, and supporting her while she’s there, and all she’s asking is that her daughter show some sign of liking her for more than just her cash. That includes initiating a conversation once in a while.

No, the mom calls the daughter once a week, and sometimes the daughter picks up and sometimes she doesn’t. If she doesn’t, the mom doesn’t expect a call back. The daughter calls the mom when she wants something. Imagine that, for a second. Getting a call from someone you love, and knowing that the only reason they’re…

“And if you read carefully she DOES call her Mom. The Mom just feels like those calls always have an agenda”

Big difference between you and this girl. You call your mom. She doesn't.

These threads make me so much more thankful and appreciative of my own mother who’s incredibly awesome.

“In a culture where a lot of people feel entitled to too much, everyone is entitled to care and a good shot at making it in the world they didn’t ask to be brought into in the first place.’

It stops when someone else isn’t shelling out $200K for your free ride in life, for starters.

It comes from a time when, if families didn’t support each other, they all lowered their chance of survival and happiness. Your family is supposed to be there for you if you go through a bad time in life. That still exists for most people.

“Those saying the daughter shouldn’t accept financial help if she doesn’t want the college money... YOU try paying for college on your own. It is not easy.”

No, it’s not easy paying for college. It’s not easy for parents, either, so you should be grateful and show them a minimum amount of courtesy when they do it.

Yeah, I was expecting a letter in which a grown up woman is pestered every day by long phone calls from her mother, or calls at work, or calls in the middle of the night, or inappropriate questions. Instead, it’s a mom who would like to talk to her daughter for ten minutes a week. I’m shocked at the total ingratitude…

Fine, if you then add the line, “so you don’t have to pay for its college education.”

Everyone always thought it was strange that I DO have the ‘Gilmore girls’ relationship with my mom. They were totally bewildered that she is my best friend and I pretty much discuss everything in my life with her. I mean, she annoys me and I need space sometimes but that is because in general I dislike human contact…

The daughter sounds like an ungrateful cock. You can be the best parent ever and still have one of those. If your parents pay for your shit, you better fucking communicate with them (I’m speaking as someone with experience because my parents paid for all of my education, apartment, books, phone, etc.).

Yeah, I just think that’s basic manners. Or just tell your Mom why you’re ignoring her text messages. Why should polite behavior not be expected just because you’re interacting with a family member?

Thank you! Seriously, all these people whining how calling their mom once a week for a short call is so clingy just blows me away.

A thousand times this. Have some damn manners.

A deep friendship and calling your mother back/returning a text are not remotely on the same scale.

Counterpoint: “Call your mother.”