Keep in mind, these are the same people that mock the concept of triggering and safe spaces. The people that go on television and break down in tears over “No, the white guy right there.” They mock triggering and safe spaces.

Seriously. Call a white person a “racist” and watch them lose their shit. You can call them “peckerwood,” “honky,” and “cracker” all day long and get nothing but a shit-eating grin. But call a white person “racist” and you’d think they were burning down Tara all over again.

Funny thing is that I’m sure none of these idiots has ever seen a trans person...or realized it anyway.

In my experience (with many Catholic relatives), the main reason is that most weddings are on Saturdays, and Saturday Mass is usually in the evening. Say Saturday Mass is at 5 pm. They need to get set up, clear stuff out from the days weddings, etc. So, generally that means no weddings after 3pm. Lutheran churches…

I’m with you on the spouses-of-the-wedding party thing.

They come out every 9/11, too. Like, OK, yeah, I roll my eyes at the people posting the pictures of the crying eagles, too. But I don’t write lengthy, navel-gazey posts about how people shouldn’t post the crying-eagle photos. Also, the irony of people writing 500-word posts about something they don’t want other people…

They are the WORST.

Sure, fair enough. My point was, some people might find it *meaningful* or *important* to get married in a building of worship for whatever reason. And they should not be made to feel like shit for it by guests who think church weddings are a monstrous inconvenience.

Thank you! These days, if I get a wedding invitation and all I’m thinking about is the inconvenience of attending, I say to myself, “Well I guess this is a wedding I should just sit out.”

You should. Because god forbid people have to drive or catch a ride from the church to another location. That is asking WAY too much of grown-ass adults! Or! You better at least provide a shuttle that makes three return trips to the hotel over the course of your reception, so that nobody has to stay longer than they…

I used my great-grandmother’s lentils.

If I were a wedding photographer, I’d be like, “OMG we NEED to incorporate that in the engagement shots!”

Gah! Again, I am so so SO relieved we didn’t have to have a Catholic wedding because it’s required to promise so much shit — you’ll have kids, raise them Catholic, yadda yadda. I kept thinking, “Shit, I’d have to LIE in my wedding vows.”

I was SO GRATEFUL my parent-pleasing, raised-Catholic husband was willing to do a quickie ceremony at the venue. I’d have gotten married in a church if he wanted to. Glad he didn’t!

My cousin, who was engaged the same time I was, LOVED when photographers asked about her Pinterest presence because it was something she carefully curated. Meanwhile, I was looking for photographers like you. And I found an awesome one.

There are so many gives-and-takes, though.

lol mine too. “Hmmm.... wondering what they’re doing during all this time?”

I can see religious people having to have the break, though (I believe it’s called the “Catholic gap” for a reason). Churches often will let you book only awkward times for weddings, like, say 1:30 pm (because they generally have morning and/or evening services/events themselves). And then dinner isn’t until, well,…

Lentils, on the other hand will ALWAYS be in.

LOL that was OUR theme, too!