I’m early 40s now (still makes me choke), and one of the best gifts my partner gave me was to adopt an IDGAF attitude towards my job. Yes, I care about my career in that I want to pay my bills and be more comfortable, and I’m a lawyer, so I have to care about my clients and building a practice to a certain extent or I…

“finding your purpose” is a mugs game for chumps, created by people marketing a service to help you find it. Self-actualization comes outside of work, through your hobbies, or pets, or even children (eegh) for some people.”

Find something simple, like accounting, or bookkeeping, being an electrician or something. And start doing it, and keep doing it.  And stay physically fit.

Before you know it, you’ll be 50 with 5-6 weeks of vacation coming to you, and enough income for fancy vacations or expensive toys.

or not.

Trust me, I know.

“finding…

Crash Test Dumbees.

Sure is! One of the most famous images.

“I thought I was spared the horrid ‘motivational’ phrase going around now—’If you don’t come out of this with a new skill, you never lacked time, you lacked discipline’—[...]

i agree but for a different reason. There’s no reason for an 78 year old man to be VP to a 77 year old president. They’d be in a race to the grave esp given Bernie’s coronary.

That haircut is not fine. That haircut is Everpresent Football Player Rapist. Shoulda listened, Pete.

That is so awful, I’m so sorry you’re in this position. It sounds like you know that you don’t deserve to be abused like this, just keep reminding yourself that you’re strong and you deserve better. We’ll all be thinking of you.

who’s had a solid pandemic-related meltdown recently!? wanna have a meltdown thread or share handy tips and tricks for waking up tomorrow and gritting our teeth through 1-3 more months of this?

Yea that was....wow.

Tiger King is what happens when you combine a zoo with a cast of characters striaght out of a 24 hour Wal Mart the day the welfare checls arrive and are cashed.

The time for cutting my own hair will be after I have torn large patches of it out from the grief and stress this has wrought, at which point, fuck it, I might as well shave it all off.

I love a nice man-ass as much as the next woman, but hard pass on this look and on this dude more generally.

I like Scalzi’s response

Leave. I know it’s easy to say, but please leave. I’m thinking of you.

Thank you for posting this, my ex wife was so abusive to me and our dog. She got super aggressive due to cancer treatment and started hitting me at least once per week. I was so conditioned by the patriarchy to not fight back until the day she broke his leg. I cannot imagine being locked up with her for 4 weeks. ONCE…

Right? Places like work and school and honestly anywhere that’s not home can be safe havens for survivors.