*sigh* Great. More fodder for all of the people who pop up in the comments of fertility articles to scream that adoption is never permanent and it’s so expensive and people will take the kid away from you whenever they want.

I definitely think the new cultural stigma of cloth diapers can’t be ignored in conversations like this. I’m not sure I would agree to watch a cloth diapered kid on a regular basis. Even though, I know they were something everyone used for quite a long time.

As an actual real-life poor person, I’d like to add some reasons from personal experience beyond that most (American) poor people use laundromats or coin-operated washers. 1) Poor people often rely on family members and friends for childcare. You may be down with cloth diapers but if your mother, sister, downstairs…

Start taking responsibility for what you say. Every misleading thing you say directly contributes to other people’s decision to not pursue adoption. This is not the forum for representing your personal experience with adoption as Gospel.

You really need to stop using the word “deserves.” It’s beyond gross in this context.

That’s not true either!

The difference is the extreme lengths she’s going to. She’s sacrificing a lot to have bio-kids. She was willing to go through a risky, experimental surgery, a month-long hospital stay, a couple of years of immuno-suppression drugs, rounds of IVF, a high-risk pregnancy, and then a hysterectomy. Add to that the time…

It’s not cheaper. Stop spreading lies. The average private adoption is $10-15,000. The average adoption from a state system is under $1,000.

Yes. Adopting children isn’t a means to build a family. No! It’s a trial, where you prove yourself worthy of what you really want: BIO CHILDREN. Like when Belle fell in love with a hideous beast and was rewarded with a handsome prince to love instead!

I don’t know about Canada in particular, but my understanding is that most European governments pay at least a portion of the leave-taker’s wages. I think the rest comes from a fund the company deposits into. Super small businesses would probably be exempt, though.

Parental leave is the hill contemporary feminists have decided to die on, don’t yah know. A few months ago, Tracey Moore wrote a piece for Jezebel about how daycare causes SIDs.

This woman is being selfish, and yes typically I’m pretty supportive of selfishness, but if she doesn’t survive the two surgeries, the pregnancies, and the 2 or more years on immuno-suppressing drugs (and there IS some risk that she will die) then her children will suffer. They’ve already lost/were taken from their…

I’m sorry I’m not a feminist in the same ways you’re a feminist. Looking at the other comments, it looks like neither of us is alone in our opinions.

I’m extremely concerned that you think there’s no difference between a closed adoption and a coerced adoption.

I don’t think being a feminist means I have to believe that everything a woman does with her body is morally above-board. Women (and men too) are not beyond reproach. She’s not getting a risque tattoo, she’s putting her other kids’ quality of life and relationship with her at risk in order to have bio kids. Her…

I can see how one spouse/partner being in the military would make adoption hard. Deepest sympathies.

I’m a young twenty-something who wants a hysterectomy in the next five years, so I’m probably prime donor material. I gotta say no, I wouldn’t donate. I’m morally oppposed to people going to such great lengths to have bio-children when there are so many children already here. I’m so morally opposed to it, that I may…

I have a small suspicion that the kids are fosters and not legally, permanently adopted.

I don’t believe being pro-abortion means you’re suddenly pro- absolutely anything reproduction related women want to do.

I agree. Having multiple surgeries, one of which is still experimental, AND going on life-altering anti-rejection meds for a couple of years in order to have children is the ultimate way to say screw you to the children you already have. Topped only by that one distant relative of mine who named both of his sons (by…