Bless you, that's important advice. I live in such a fog of misery, it's hard to see past the day to day struggle, but you're very right. Thank you.

Please do talk to her. I so desperately wish that my ex and I had had better communication. I still think maybe we would have a had a chance, and losing him was the worst thing that ever happened to me and I regret it every single day. Please don't end up like me for want of a little courage to talk honestly about how…

What if she hates her freckles and refuses to be interested in anyone who likes freckles, because they must be a loser looking for a relationship with someone who reminds them of their freckled mother?

I hhave ad a lot of CBT and I still have a lot of terrible thoughts; but maybe I would be worse without having had it. Maybe that thought itself is evidence of itself.

I'm almost too old for kids to be a possibility - I do have friends several years older than me who've recently had babies, but I'm never going to meet anyone who wants to really quickly start doing all the stuff you have to do. I wanted to have kids and my ex did too, but it never happened for us. People have…

Maybe stop extending your self loathing to loathing of the people who find you attractive, too. That's where it crosses a line maybe. People can't help who they find attractive, and to assume they do so for 'bad' reasons rather than honest ones is not fair on them. Unless they tell you they're some kind of fetishist…

RAMS is lovely. I rewatched it a couple of weeks ago and it's still one of my favourites in the recent year - it's just the right mix of poignant and funny.There's something so magnetically haunting about the Icelandic landscape - it's a bleak, understated kind of spectacular that just seems unlike anything else, and…

they're called Gabe and Tycho

Thanks - I'm sorry if I sounded too harsh, and I definitely don't think you have anything to apologise for. The selfies do suggest that the guy is just a dick, to be sure, and obviously you're there and I'm not. I guess I empathise way too heavily (hah) with anyone plump in a gym and am definitely willing to give too…

The Big Short. Fascinating because I am clueless about economics so I feel like I learned something, although even the explanations of all the basics to camera were not basic enough for me. I still don't really know what a bond is. I've looked it up but I can't hold that kind of information for long. Anyway, since a…

heh. No one comes out of this looking good, that's for sure.

I don't want to be a dick but do you know anything at all about this guy's mental health? One thing people often fail to take into account is how mental illness and weight problems can go together. Maybe he's in a kind of personal hell and doesn't know how to ask for help and doesn't know how to get out of this…

It's a shame, I would have liked to think he could manage to do a few days for us the fans :( But if the choice was up to him and he said no, I prefer that to his current producers forbidding him doing something he wanted to do, so I'll go with that in my head.

the curse of Redmayne will never end.

Yeah I just assumed I must have missed the RIP post and that it was my fault for not being able to find it but…

my very favourite part of all of this is Americans pointing and laughing at someone else for being insular and western-centric.

Ilvermorney sounds much more Scottish than Irish to me - like a cross between Inverness and Moray and Balamory.

Let's all remember what 'hogs' and 'warts' and, indeed, 'warthogs' are.
not to mention that Beauxbatons means 'pretty sticks' which I suppose could be about wands at a pinch. Durmstrang just seems to be a play on sturm und drang, which is a pretty weird choice too.

It is true that Americans are famed for their mastery of other languages so no doubt Ilvermorny students are all polyglots

If 'we' wish to miss the point entirely, 'we' can do what 'we' want. But that's not what social construct means, at all.