Stay law requires 3 feet of space between obstructions for wheelchair bound people. I know it may be hard to understand if you have never had to push a wheelchair bound person, but it exists.

There is not enough space to go around, so you would have to go on the grass. But because sidewalks are usually higher than the grass, that means your wheels will get stuck. You keep doing that daily, eventually wheels will break. And it’s not such a pleasant feeling for the baby to have the stroller bounce up and…

And before anyone whines about your struggles with a stroller, I would remind them all of persons in wheelchairs...

“It’s like going up to a puppy dog and kicking it.”

I agree completely, never said anything to the contrary.

Ever have the pleasure of pushing a double-long stroller full of squirming minions off the sidewalk onto the road and back onto the sidewalk?

Its normally one neighbor that complains, the neighbor who complains about everything that isn’t the exact way that they believe it should be done because they know better than everyone else and having to deal with others views are a constant pain to them.

I may actually side with the neighbors if he parks and it blocks the sidewalk like that.

Park it on the street and I have no issue.

It’s blocking the sidewalk, doesn’t belong there.

I would have made her repeat it over and over. Like, “pardon? what’d you say? plz explain.”

I saw something once that said when a person says they don’t see color, wheat they were saying is that POC were invisible to them. I didn’t realize it was literal.

As a woman in tech, good. Those stories need to come out.

I witnessed so much of this crap in conference rooms and hallways. Always dished out by the most senior people. The responses were to freeze, nervous laughter, or genuine laughter from coworkers who thought racist, sexist jokes were only not funny to uptight people. The only time I challenged an executive was when I…

Blaming education or a lack of minorities interested in tech minimizes the stories of people who have been driven out of their fields by this toxic environment.

“Nope, my arm is brown and the chair is black,” I quipped awkwardly.

I would have sat frozen, shocked. And then hours later I would beat myself up for not flipping the table, thus making it my fault that I wasn’t able to confront the woman in the moment when it occurred.

I can honestly say that I have never had a sincerely meant hug go so wrong that it ended with a hand up my shirt. WTF?

I’ve never worked in a tech firm, but having spent some time as a woman in a similarly male-dominated industry (finance), I think there’s a gender imbalance between various parts of the company that often compounds these problems. Like, even as HR is supposed to serve as a resource for gender inequality and other…

She stared at me for a few seconds and remarked, “Oh. I didn’t see you. You blended in. You’re so black, you blend into the chair.” I didn’t believe what I was hearing and I didn’t know what to do. I looked at my arm, compared it to the chair in front of her.

OMG that chair story. I would have flipped the table over onto her head.