I wish I did. I used to have very boring, slow desk jobs I hated, so I used to read archives of advice columns to wile away the time, so it could have been from literally any time in Savage’s lengthy career. :(

I am so, so sorry.

It would. Pilates would be a great choice too, with more emphasis on health and less on getting hot.

Mostly women, but men are welcome outliers, so I have heard.

The SNS had some commenters grumbling that men shouldn’t be allowed to comment or at least not take up so much space virtue signalling and your username came up. I think there was one in this thread, which was why I commented.

As a woman, I had to undo some of my own programming about being pursued that way. Reading a Dan Savage column, a woman wrote that she loved teasing me sexually until they were total sex lunatics for her but was dismayed that her current BF wasn’t ravishing her after all her teasing cues. Dan excoriated her for being…

It’s super weird that some Jezzies have started snarking on you as I generally enjoy your comments and don’t mind thoughtful men. Just letting you know!

Reading Jezebel instead of studying and her advice was like a kick in the pants.

Anytime I hear anything like that happening to babies I’m a mess for days. There is not enough brain bleach.

Our kid is in daycare full time, so we focus on having fun and staying off our electronics only on evenings and weekends. Anybody can manage just evenings and weekends.

Your Money or Your Life has an exercise where you put a plus, minus, or 0 next to each purchase on a regular basis. Plus os for what you look back on and feel good about, minus is for what you look back on and feel gross about, and 0 is for utilities, rent, other neutral non-negotiables. This helps you be more aware…

Yep. That’s how I remember it too, and some quick Googling backs it up.

Oh, Sean Hayes! I remember back when Will and Grace was running [the first time], that he wasn’t out as such. Anyway, I’m glad he’s talking about it now. He’s always seemed like a good egg.

Don’t worry. I knew what you meant the first time. :)

Yeesh

There really isn’t. Everyone grieves differently. I hope someone is more compassionate to you when you’re in the thick of it.

Yep.

You can soak them in Mason jars in the fridge, all prepped for timely consumption. I am still not clear if you microwave them to eat them, or just eat them cold.

Thank you for sharing. I am so glad you have had an easy love. I lucked into a good husband too, and they are rare. I am so sorry you are losing him. That’s the part of our marriage vows I am most scared of. Hugs from an Internet stranger. I am thinking of you and your husband and the love you share.

No. People who’ve been married for decades say you fall in and out of love with each other over and over again. But I am a believer in love as an action, not a feeling. Loving feelings are generated by loving actions, so hanging in there and doing the work via loving actions — especially if your partner is basically a…