So not fellating man means a straight woman isn’t really straight? Wut?

“You know what I do find offensive? The notion that ‘if you’re not going to eat pussy, you’re not a dyke’.”

Or, you know, an asexual lesbian. Or a gay woman who wants to wait for marriage. Or a bi-lady in a straight, monogamous relationship.

That’s a ridiculous assertion. Are all people without sexuality and attractions until the minute they get naked with someone else?

I agree. Sexual orientation is about what gender you feel sexual attraction to, not about physical actions. Men and women turn me on, therefore I’m bisexual. When I realized that I was attracted to all people I was a kid and wouldn’t go on to have any kind of sex for many years, but I was still a bisexual at that time.

Well I certainly am, but jesus christ, if I were asexual or had some trauma relating to cunnilingus that meant I preferred not to give and/or receive it, I’d be really, really offended. You’re saying a whole class of women doesn’t deserve love. Fuck that.

I 100% agree.

I really like your post. I feel similarly about my own bisexuality... When I was younger it was confused with kissing girls to titilate men, but I was titilated... But also confused because of the messages we get about girls who like girls

And even if swooning over Ruby Rose doesn’t make someone realize they’re actually queer, being straight and finding a particular woman extremely attractive is still “real”. I am uncomfortable with straight women patting themselves on the back for talking about how hot Ruby Rose is, but I’m much more uncomfortable with…

Lots of questioning women were straight before they had their first girl crush. This kind of response to openly voicing who I am is the reason why I don’t come out. Seriously, you should not do this.

It’s like the match question on Okcupid, “Women who make out with other women for attention are...” Then they give you options like “So annoying!” or “Incredibly hot!” And all I can think is, how do you know WHY women are making out with each other?? Just because the question presumes that they are doing it for male…

THANK YOU for saying this! I thinks it’s fine that straight women are questioning maybe even a little from a crush on Ruby Rush. It may be a cliche but Angelina Jolie back in the day was who made me start to question. I have never eaten pussy and that doesn’t mean I am not bi. I guess to some they might consider me…

How do you know who’s straight or questioning? Who are you to tell ‘straight’ women not to express their feelings or crushes on someone? I call bullshit. Stop policing people’s sexuality.

Seriously, I’m not sure WHAT is happening at Jez lately, but this is like the fourth or fifth post in the past few days that has been incredibly blind to LGB(esp B)T issues, and then the damn height post was the icing on the cake for me.

Yeah... This post made me want to jump all the way back into my bisexual closet because I have yet to “eat pussy.”

What is with the tone of this?! I’m bi, and I have no problem with ‘straight’ girls saying this - maybe they’re not straight and this is how they’re finding out? Why are they not allowed to express that they have an unexpected attraction? It’s not taking anything away from me.

A long time ago, I was active on the original involuntary celibacy listserv. It was founded and at the time still administered by the lesbian third-wave-feminist women's studies major who coined the terms "involuntary celibacy" and "incel" in the first place. When I was there, it was an inclusive place. There were…