Well, they aren't saying it to ME necessarily, but posts like this are fairly common - by marching in protest, blocking racists, sharing posts in support, I am not being helpful. In fact, I'm only doing it (apparently) because I want a cookie. If that's what people think, I'm ok with it - *I* know its not true, and I…

When the person you were responding to posed the question, "what should 'good white people' do then?" you responded with:

That's ridiculous, change happens because word is spread that people wont put up with that kind of behavior any more. If you don't let anyone know what happened then nothing will change.

Because not talking about a social issue always makes it go away.

I think we (a very general "we," here—I'm a white woman) shouldn't waste too much time worrying about the feelings of white people who are being genuinely good about race issues. They'll be fine—they don't need to be coddled. (If the need to be rewarded and coddled, then they're not actually very good white people…

I'm sorry but that's BS. So good white people shouldn't express opinions because some black people might construe that as self-righteousness? And just sit by quietly? There's a difference between getting on a soapbox and expressing one's opinion in a rational, calm manner in the appropriate venue. The latter is just…

Thanks for this. That was my sense of it, too. I think it's a question of how white people who want to be anti-racist should talk about race, not a question of whether they should talk about it. We shouldn't speak for PoC, we shouldn't make it about ourselves, and we shouldn't expect praise for merely not being an…

I think part of the problem with not relating an idea to something in one's life is that how humans develop empathy. Empathy is essential to understanding/forming a relationship with other people.

Is a member of another oppressed minority (First Nations), I disagree quite strongly with this.

What about talking about it for the purpose of encouraging others to do the same? I do sometimes have to remove someone, not just racism, but all kinds of things I don't want to see on my feed, sexism, graphic photos, candy crush invites, and I usually follow up with a post saying "I'm not into this, if you want to…