People are assholes about ANY difference. My daughter has Down syndrome, which results in features that are generally fairly identifiable. When she was a baby, the number of people who would walk up to me and say, “What’s wrong with your baby? Why does she look weird?” just astounded me.

It makes sense that this would bring it back. But dwelling on it? That sounds judge. Sometimes we need to revisit bad things to clean out the last of the infection. Your friends sounds sort of dickish.

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You’re welcome. I too have had friends who advised me to take the high road and let stuff go and it’s always for their convenience, not mine. Then I met a girl who spray-painted, markered(this was before Sharpies) everywhere“x is a rapist” after a date-rape and university inaction drove her to a suicide attempt. The…

That’s a great idea. Thanks! Yes, hopefully it gets cancelled.

I’m so sorry you were put through this and I can totally relate with wanting to do something yet being hesitant. do a sandwich board stunt in a million years though I wish I could.

You absolute gem!

Oh my gosh!! I had no idea. I am going to look into this right now and find out that they are following the guidelines. Nothing is mentioned on their posters in regards to donations. A few years ago one of the members, and a friend of mine, passed away suddenly. they did a special performance to raise funds for his…

Yes, I have actually. It is the reason I was able to come off of my medication last year! It helped me so much! It isn’t as much of a struggle as it was, and if I find a new trigger or am feeling sensitive, I am easier able to regain control. Very rarely does my PTSD completely inhibit or control me anymore. I…

Not sure if anyone has brought this up (too lazy to read all the comments below) but V-Day has verrrry strict requirements about people performing this play. I have been involved in several productions on every side of TVM (acting, directing, producing, etc) and it absolutely has to be a non-profit performance. If the…

There are two theatre groups in our town, I was a member of both and have kept doing theatre with the club that isn’t full of people of poor moral standing. I only got back onto the stage in December last year, choosing to do behind the scenes work while I tried to rebuild my confidence levels.

Those people are terrible, and your feelings are absolutely valid. I hope their venue of choice gets a wasp infestation. Here’s some baby animals:

Everything you are feeling is valid and nothing is your fault. As others below have said, you are strong, you should never be ashamed of what you are feeling, and , everyone associated with that theatre should be ashamed of themselves.

Have you heard of EMDR? It’s a really successful, non-drug legit treatment for PTSD. If you have insurance, look for a licensed therapist that uses this method. They can teach it to you very easily, it may help you gain control of some of your PTSD.

Much love to you, Peachy. I’m sorry this happened to you, and is still happening to you. I remember the idea of “artists don’t rape” that ran through my circle. It was and is a horrific attitude, and a big part of why I broke away. They may never understand what role they played in your pain. Fuck them. You deserve…

Thank you! And I think I found all the support I need right here on Jezebel. Hopefully my friends can see it from my point of view. Working on the making new friends though, because fuck those guys.

No! You just verbalised exactly what I am feeling!! Definitely working on making new friends. I don’t need people being unsupportive, especially when I will drop everything to help them out in times of crisis.

The fact that they are sending you invites shoes that they are a bunch of fucking assholes who should go live on Mars. I’m so sorry you had to go thru that and I hope you have a good support system. I’m sending you lots of love virtually. Your feelings are completely valid and they are in the wrong and should go fuck…