It's more like making pancakes...the first one is always a little messed up.

just thinking about it this hard probably means you will be ok. you and partner pinwheel are obviously good eggs and will be wonderful. Have a kitten.

PREACH. So many of my friends seem to make their mothering decisions based entirely on a mix of guilt and fear and not based on what they want/think is best for the kid. I have not had that problem so far, which leads to awkward conversations like:

My concern (or should I say one of my concerns) is that courts are not known for their speed of getting cases to trial. Are they really going to fast track these trials? I can see some poor girl finally get a ruling that she is fit to make decisions about her own body but by then she's already 5 months along and…

Remember, every woman of reproductive age who still has her uterus/ovaries should be considered "pre-pregnant" at all times. Weekly pregnancy tests should be mandatory. No smoking, drinking, eating problematic foods for you! Get your daily vitamins administered at the Ministry of Wombs. You think you are a person who…

Where is everyone getting these fetus dolls????

I mean, when I say "what 'good' looks like is inseparable from pleasing the male gaze, even though we can try all we want to redefine it away from that" I'm talking about that standard specifically as it exists now, not the very concept of looking good. I certainly believe that it's possible to change that standard.…

You know, I'm amazed by the intensity of the hatred that so many people seem to have for her. I suspect it's a combination of internalized sexism and conflating her with the character she plays. She's a smart, flawed, interesting, famous, young writer who's still learning, and she's also written a lot that really…

Read the books, have not seen the show (don't have Starz), but heard they were going to change things up with the Frank parts of the story. And I have to say - I approve. Heartily. Book Frank felt like a cardboard cutout of a husband more than an actual human character. I had absolutely zero compunction about…

I'll watch a Sparks movie if I want to experience crying and rolling my eyes at the same time.

Ugh. The Hemingway thing bothers me on so many levels. SO MANY. And I fucking hate Hemingway. So, it shouldn't bother me so much that one writer that I hate compared himself to another who I also hate. But, seriously, Nicholas Sparks, you think you write Hemingway-style fiction? Hemingway's entire project was to…

I didn't have an opinion on Nicholas Sparks until now, aside from thinking his movies and books look like things I would not enjoy, but this:

Mmm... I'd like some Clitoreos.

I CAN'T HEAR YOU THROUGH THE SOUND OF ME GOBBLING DOWN ALL THESE NOTHING BURGERS.

He's advocating personal responsibility but only if you have a vagina.