What Drew et al. are missing is of course the quietly (and even just tacitly) open relationships. It's strange that people take the flaky, over-the-top polyamorous people on the teevee—or the members of fetlife—as representative.

Monogamy doesn't work out well for *most* people. Half of all marriages end in divorce, and some percentage of the others are either open (even if quietly so), or include at least one instance of one spouse cheating on the other. How many couples actually get married and then neither one ever has sex with another…

Well, I do get wound up when my marriage, which is the most important part of my life, is called "horseshit" by a writer I generally like in a very public setting. I'll cop to that.

I've been in an open relationship for over seven years now, it's been fine, no drama. I'd gladly take a bet that my marriage lasts longer than Drew's. Drew is also just factually wrong about "please don't bang other people" being an integral part of marriage; polygamy (for men) is a more common relationship structure…