Gap Body makes a good one. My favorite is the Seven Wonders Moving Comfort bra. I highly recommend going to titlenine.com and checking out the staff recs for your cup size (or bigger). And ask people - my friend/former roommate recommended Gap Body. She's my size (we used to swap clothes) and very athletic, and I…

I'm a 36D too, and the day I finally realized I had to spend a little money and invest in some good sports bras (and get rid of them when they started to decline) was a very happy day indeed. My sports bras are not cute, but they have a job to do and they do it well, so I am all about function over fashion where they…

If your "friend" doesn't understand why you can't be a bridesmaid fucking THREE DAYS after surgery, she's an asshole.

I know a family law attorney casually (we're both in a networking group) and she says the same thing. She's in her late forties and married, and she tells both her teenage kids to always be able to support themselves (she calls an emergency fund a "fuck you fund" because it's designed to allow you to say "fuck you" to…

I don't have that friend; I've said before in this space that I will cut people off if they say racist shit. I cannot have that in my life as a black woman and frankly, no one should tolerate it. I get your point though. I don't think Silverman is remotely funny, but I'm indifferent to her as a person. Handler just…

I'm indifferent to her as a person but WOW, that dye job looks terrible. Her dark brown is lovely but if she wants to go lighter, that is just not the shade for her. At all.

Me too. I get rid of the "undercarriage" and whatever would hang out of a bathing suit bottom, but keep the hair on the mons (although I do trim it). I don't like the totally bare look but do like to groom a bit. The bare labia feel nice against underwear and when I'm getting oral, and it also alleviates the fluids…

I can't stand her either. She's like Sarah Silverman, who I do not find funny in the slightest. And Handler said some casually racist shit about 50 Cent, and apparently said something straight-up racist TO him, so I'm through with her. http://necolebitchie.com/2012/01/chelse…

I remember reading an interview with him that he did when promoting Human Stain (which I read when Prison Break was airing) where the interviewer asked him something like "As a white man, how did you identify with this role" or something, and he was like "Not white, actually," and the interviewer was like "Now what…

Evan Rachel Wood played a teen with pseudocyesis (she was lactating, and then it was revealed that she was a virgin) in an episode of CSI. Her mom had abandoned the family and she, as the older sibling, stepped up - falling in love with her father in the process. The "baby" was his. He was unaware that she was in love…

Agreed, the woman in the middle is clearly black. Never thought otherwise. Black people can usually spot other black or partially black people who aren't "phenotypically black" (one of my white friends was shocked when he read that Wentworth Miller was biracial and I was like, "I knew right away!"), but the woman in…

Agreed - the one of the left looks defiant, the one on the right looks a little remorseful. She may just be thinking "oh shit, we got caught," but at least she looks a little upset. The one on the right looks like "So what? Fuck you, you shouldn't have been in my business."

I side-eyed the fuck out of that. If you don't know him that well, what the fuck are you doing tethering yourself to him for life? My friend told me that when he got divorced, the weirdest/hardest thing was knowing that he might never speak to his ex again. They had no kids so they really had no reason to communicate.…

Yeah, I'm black, so if anyone tells me to suck it up and deal with a racist, I would end my friendship with them AND the person who married a racist, and I would tell them why. You do not get to be an accomplice racist and be my friend, period. "What's the big deal about racism?" is one of the most white-privilege-est…

Exactly. She's seen this many, many times before. She may not remember being high in front of her kid (and even that is bullshit), but there is no doubt in my mind that her kid has seen her high very regularly. Her kid is "raising" her, most likely.

I don't know any heroin addicts personally but I've seen more than my share nodding off on the street in NYC and Philly and this, to me, is clearly that. I did know a narcoleptic once and this doesn't look like his behavior.

Swap in bike for run, but I agree. I belong to a gym and will continue to use it, but I like that I can get in some outdoor exercise when I get home in the evening. I don't bike in the dark - too nervous about cars not seeing me.

I've heard that credit card companies will cancel your accounts if you leave then inactive for too long (which is why I use mine even though I don't carry a balance, because apparently it dings your credit score to have the company cancel) but even then, I think they'd just send you a letter cutting you off.

I'm very sorry for you and yours too. Aging, losing faculties, is terrible - and it's criminal that there aren't more resources to help people cope. My grandmother wasn't wealthy but she managed her money well. The hospice facility she was in cost seven grand, which was within our budget - but had she lingered longer…

My grandmother died two weeks ago. She was 83. She had cancer for the second time (she beat it at 80, it came back in a different spot), but this time she went quickly, as she was diagnosed in October. It completely ravaged her; she couldn't speak, she forgot things (and she was literally Phi Beta Kappa, very proud of…